Never ending

[Hoolahup]

I have 2 aged 28 and 26. Still at home. No digs paid. Take the °iss with keeping house tidy. I want to leave my job but still 'raising kids'. I'm aged 58 and been paying my own way since 21. I could retire in a couple of years with company pension but only if they leave home so felt unhappy the other day, thinking about it. I would never kick them out just wish they'd find their own path in life etc.Kids asked if I was ok. I eventually said that when they were starting uni, I didn't think that aged late 20s, they'd still be 'finding their way'. Both work in low paid jobs. They called me the c word.
Charming.

[GeordieLass02]

They are definitely taking liberties. Ask them to leave and enjoy your retirement!

[Lovemusic82]

As long as they are getting all they need from you they will not find their own path, they need a little push…….so tell them they have to find some where else to live and support themselves.

[Hoolahup]

Thanks GeordieLass02. I've spent so long thinking I'm the one to blame re arguments over non payment of digs, using my house as if it's a hotel, smell of vapes....that I even agreed to see a °issing counsellor. They use that against me also as the counsellor said I should keep my temper under control. The c word incident made me realise, it's definitely not me. I could have a great peaceful retirement. I'm even seriously considering selling up and downsizing to somewhere where they'd never move to.

[onthefence23]

Omg it's not you they are taking the piss for sure! I'm barely older than them and managing a full time job, house and toddler!

[Hoolahup]

That's what I keep saying to them, that people younger than them and around same age, have responsibilities+++ but they still act like babies.

[DaughterNo2]

Why aren’t you charging them board ?

[Jellybean85]

Tbh you're really not doing them any favours. I had friends who relied on parents like this and really struggled to get on in indépendant adult life. Time to give them a nudge out of the nest!