Never ending

[Hoolahup]

I have 2 aged 28 and 26. Still at home. No digs paid. Take the °iss with keeping house tidy. I want to leave my job but still 'raising kids'. I'm aged 58 and been paying my own way since 21. I could retire in a couple of years with company pension but only if they leave home so felt unhappy the other day, thinking about it. I would never kick them out just wish they'd find their own path in life etc.Kids asked if I was ok. I eventually said that when they were starting uni, I didn't think that aged late 20s, they'd still be 'finding their way'. Both work in low paid jobs. They called me the c word.
Charming.

They are definitely taking liberties. Ask them to leave and enjoy your retirement!

As long as they are getting all they need from you they will not find their own path, they need a little push…….so tell them they have to find some where else to live and support themselves.

Thanks GeordieLass02. I've spent so long thinking I'm the one to blame re arguments over non payment of digs, using my house as if it's a hotel, smell of vapes....that I even agreed to see a °issing counsellor. They use that against me also as the counsellor said I should keep my temper under control. The c word incident made me realise, it's definitely not me. I could have a great peaceful retirement. I'm even seriously considering selling up and downsizing to somewhere where they'd never move to.

Omg it's not you they are taking the piss for sure! I'm barely older than them and managing a full time job, house and toddler!

That's what I keep saying to them, that people younger than them and around same age, have responsibilities+++ but they still act like babies.

Why aren’t you charging them board ?

Tbh you're really not doing them any favours. I had friends who relied on parents like this and really struggled to get on in indépendant adult life. Time to give them a nudge out of the nest!