Hello
ive been in a relationship for a few years but I’ve not introduced him to my kids (13 and 11) as a boyfriend. I guess because the split from their dad was so, so awful, because my family are full of shame and blame for me ending my marriage ( I think unfairly as he was unfaithful and bullying) and because when we got together he was a casual thing and I couldn’t face introducing him and it ending and it being an issue. Also he’s older than me by 12 years and never divorced his wife albeit they haven’t been together for 15 years. I’m now in a weird limbo where he wants to move it on and is divorcing and he wants to ultimately (not immediately) move in and my kids are hostile to this “friend’ who is often around but whose status is unclear. If I do let him move in I am worried in case it blows up because his kids are grown up and mine are pretty used to me being the centre of their universe. My fear is that he gets angsty over their hostility and a lovely thing ends, that the kids play up and that if it fails my family will make a drama of it. My family make a drama of everything, albeit I love him dearly and he is a good man. Do other people just bite the bullet? My exh knows him and will poison the well with my kids who think exh is nice. Do I just tell my kids and family I have a boyfriend and work this through? What do I do? What did you do? I’m tired of protecting everyone and putting my needs aside. Thanks for advice.
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namechanger4097 · 12/01/2024 01:02
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