Chidcare changes

[BREZ1]

Hi,

My ex has started a new job and has started dropping the kids off at 7 am on a weekday. We have set days; however, due to his job, we don't know when these 7am drop offs will be. They could be one, but they could be four a month. Now, this does not seem like a big deal, but I don't know when these days are until the end of the month before for the next month, as this is when the shifts come out so cannot plan for them.

On these days, I have to try and get the kids ready and dressed and drive to school in an hour. I have two kids, one is 10, and one is 4. My 4-year-old gets upset when I drop him at school on these days as he won't have seen me for 2-3 days, then I rush around and drop him off. We have a fixed rota for the kids, so we both get every other weekend off. However, the day he wants to drop them at 7 am is usually the Monday after my weekend or the day after my free time. Hopefully, this doesn't sound selfish, but this means I can't have a social life as I have to receive them at 7 am. The original plan was, for example, if I have the kids Saturday Sunday, I take them to school on Monday, and then he will pick them up after school and we alternate. Is the 7 am drop-off fair, and am I just being selfish?

[Thatswhy11]

Can your ex request set days? If I have understood correctly... I don't think its fair to wake a 4 year old drop then off at one parents house and then the other parent has to drive both kids to school. What time are your kids waking up?

You need to look at set days and whoever has Monday, Tuesday for example it's their responsibility to cover childcare.

[BREZ1]

Hi, the days are set, but they can't have the 7 am starts set but some shifts start later, and he can't confirm when and how many each month. My daughter is up at 6 am she always has done , but we have to wake my youngest up as he is lazy :). I suggested that whoever has the kids drops them off at school the next day.