Ex moving in with girlfriend

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Hi there. My 6 year-old told me this evening that his dad is planning on moving in with his girlfriend, who he has been seeing for about 8 months.

I am taking it quite badly to be honest. His dad refuses to let me meet this woman. We have been separated for 5 years (together for 13) and we get along pretty well, although communication is not as great as it was before he met her. I don’t want him back, our relationship died a long time ago. I am just feeling sick at the prospect of my child living with another woman and acting as a parental figure to him. He does like her though but, at the moment, I’m not sure if that’s a good or bad thing.

I am not looking for advice from on what I can and cannot do in terms of controlling the situation as I know I can’t control it. Instead, I am looking for advice on processing this.

Thank you if you have got this far.

You'll always be his Mum. Nothing, but nothing will ever change that!

Hopefully, the new GF is a good person. 8 months seems quite quick to move her in though.

I am not sure why your ex will not let you meet her?

This may help:

Tips for co-parenting when your ex has a new partner | amicable

Your son likes her, and you're not sure if it's a good thing?

He does like her though but, at the moment, I’m not sure if that’s a good or bad thing.

To be fair, a 6 year old might not be the best judge of character.

It's promising that he likes her, but I wonder why she's being kept hidden from OP?

What makes you think she'll act in a parental way? This seems to be a common misconception.

You don't have to meet her it's not really any of your business particularly as your child likes her and you haven't said anything about him being a poor dad. You're clearly a bit jealous, referring to her as "this woman".

Please don't try and damage that relationship it could have detrimental far reaching effects to all involved.

I’m referring to her as “this woman” as I don’t know her.

My ex met my partner just because he was here when he picked up our son one day. I would not have set up a meeting g between them. We both trust each other with who we bring into our kids lives.

Can’t see how to edit this post but seems his dad has had a chat about moving in with his girlfriend in the next 2 years. Seems my son did not take this point in…

I wouldn’t worry about it. He hardly sounds besotted with the woman. Moving in in the next 2 years doesn’t sound like he’s very keen.