To have aged dramatically since becoming a lone parent

[Camcam]

Hi ladies,

Im only 26 but after a very stressful divorce and barely anytime to myself, I can’t believe how much I have aged over the past few years since becoming a single parent.

Looking back, I was rather pretty before my ds came along. I was scouted for modelling, took care of my appearance and makeup, teeth whitened, regularly had my hair highlighted and nails always manicured.

Divorce pretty much financially destroyed me and ever since I have struggled to find a job around young ds childcare hours so money has been tight. My clothes are mostly all from the charity shop, makeup is rationed for special occasions (cheap brands) and can no longer afford or have the time to get my nails and hair done. I did used to get Botox (far too young I know!) but could no way afford that now.

My skin is making me most self conscious. After another stressful year, I have started developing deep wrinkles on my forehead, fine lines under my eyes and nasolabial creases. I drink lots of water, don’t drink alcohol or smoke, take vitamins and try to eat well. I sleep very early shortly after ds goes to sleep so not lacking in the sleep department.

I know there is much bigger things to worry about but I look back at photos of myself from a few years ago and look like a different person. I can’t help but feel self conscious. I’ve been cheated on in most previous relationships and have been yet again recently when I finally decided to start dating again (ow was much prettier which hasn’t helped my confidence). I cringe when people ask my age as they mostly always think I’m a lot older.

Not really sure of the point of this post, just a vent really! Hope everyone’s having a good evening so far :)

[Hubblebubble]

Suncream, everyday, even in the winter. That's the most useful anti ager.

[Hubblebubble]

Also, if possible, trying to focus on the value you have outside of your looks.

[Augustus40]

Factor 50 suncream.

Can you find a hair salon that does model afternoons and you book eg half a day off work? Or the local college etc. They may even colour your hair too at a very good price.

[juicelooseabootthishoose]

Id say don't panic. I know many of us look/feel like this after a divorce. But you do recover as the stress fades and life moves on. And the harshness of it subsides. Its all a bit 'severe' to start with but it does soften.

[Camcam]

Hi all and apologies for the late responses. Only just seen this now! Thanks all for your advice I’ll start applying sunscreen :)