I was planning to change my daughter’s surname once she turns 16. When I registered her I used both mine and exes surname I actually asked which way round to put the names so mine was the main name one used and the one used day to day. I was told by the woman who registered her to put mine first as it’s easier to drop the last one. Well this wasn’t true as everywhere literally never uses my name and only uses my exes name. I was told written down mine will look like a middle name. I wasn’t happy with this and asked when dd was a baby to change the name but obviously got told no. We split up and he has nothing to do with her. I want to change the name but was told it would never be agreed to by a judge because they would never remove a name. I thought it was best to wait till she’s 16 and then change it but it seems that’s frowned upon and most people have told me it would be wrong to change it at 16. So would it be better changing it now whiskeys she’s still a child? Dd only knows herself as my name as school agreed to use only mine. She doesn’t know about the other surname she is autistic and doesn’t have the same understanding as other children. I waited thinking it was the best thing to do now people are telling me that’s wrong? Has anyone changed their child’s name without the fathers permission, I’ve heard a few people say can be done if he is absent? Just not accepted by passport office? I wanted to do it officially but seems that was not the right thing to do, I would understand if I never gave her mine but the intention was for both names with mine being the “main” one.