I am a new lone parent it was a totally unexpected and I am very shell shocked and currenlty swinging between anger and utter devastation I undertsand these are all part of the process and with time things will get better. My problem is I have suggested exp sees dd once a fortnight for the begining - he said he was moving in with his parents (but didnt) and I think hes staying on his mates sofa. - both of these are in my opinion not a situation I would like my dd to be in (better at gp ) but at end of day I thought him seeing her was about quality time with her not palm her off with G ma whilst he would I would bet on it play his precious golf) Hes seen her twice since the split which she has enjoyed I know he should see her but he himted yesterday when he dropped her off that Im being unreasonable about access to h er - My dd is normally outgoing and lively but alhtough she wont say the whole sit is bothering her she is having nightmares wont sleep in her bed and is also very happy playing her nintendo in her room all day (NOT LIKE HER) even a friend noticed how withdrawn she is becoming. Ive tried talking to her but as daddy told her to brave shes not really talking at all. Anyway As this is affecting her and to be honest in the 8yrs of her life whatever he ws doing took prioity over us as a family esp dd he never really spent a great deal of time with her anyway in fact its only the last couple of months hes actually started doing things with her like ice skating bike rides before that he did nothing apart from watch sky ports and soccer all day then play golf or go out with his mates up into london on the pi** My point was that dd needs routine and seeing him for 6hrs every sat is not what shes been used too - she never saw him during week as he was "working".