Do you get lonely as a single mum?

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Ionely · 20/12/2023 17:16

I'm 24 yrs old my daughter is 20 months. I didn't think I'd ever feel lonely cause I have her but often, especially when she's behaving badly, which is all the time atm, I do feel so lonely.

How do you handle feeling like this?

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MummyRM100 · 04/01/2024 22:59

Whsthappensnow · 04/01/2024 21:14

I'm 46. I've been separated for 2 years. My DC don't see thier dad very often even though he lives locally.

My DC are 8 and 9. I've found it very had to make friends here. I work term time and so far only agency work so it was hard to make friends at work only being a temp.

I get on well with my dc's friends parents but they only go out in couples and told this to me like it was perfectly normal and acceptable.

I'm starting to feel ready to date again although I've no idea how. A single Friend in the same boat recently met someone and now has no time for a social life. I wondered how she does it and she said 'you'll find a way, you'll make it work and it'll be worth it' I'm not convinced though.

I have moments when I'm fine with it but at the moment I totally hear you OP

I'm in a similar boat. Been a lone parent for 11 years now, DS only sees his dad one weekend a month (if that). He's with me all of the rest of the time - very little family around to babysit. I've tried dating but it's hard with such little free time. I've given up - I guess I'll wait until it either knocks on my door or my DS is older and off living his own life !

StarDolphins · 04/01/2024 23:06

i don’t know if it’s loneliness I feel as I don’t feel it when she’s with her Dad (she just goes to his all day each Saturday) but maybe a sort of isolation of only having a child to speak to?! I don’t know. I adore her, I just find entertaining her at night, in winter, hard.

Doesn’t bother me enough to even entertain the thought of bringing a man into the dynamic though! & I always feel better in summer.

Whsthappensnow · 05/01/2024 17:26

@StarDolphins I totally get it. Sometimes it's just about a bit more adult company. And we all feel more optimistic in the summer.

Finding a man wasn't on my radar at all until recently. It's just that my head has been turned by a man who showed me a bit of kindness when I was having a bad day and now I can't get him out of my thoughts!

And if my kid's dad did see them regularly I know I'd have the intention of doing something for me but I'd end up lying in for a bit then catching up on housework!

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