We have 3 children together dd8, ds6 and dd5. He left when youngest was 9mo, barely saw the children for about 12 months then due to an issue with another child was not allowed unsupervised around children. We went through the courts and after 2 years he was allowed supervised contact. This began last Christmas and has progressed to now unsupervised contact with his current gf supposedly being “the protective factor” when they are at his.
I feel this is important background info. Since the social worker has stepped away his attitude towards 5yo has become more and more negative. She is constantly told off by him and he speaks very negatively about her. He brought them home to me yesterday saying that she kept “lying about feeling unwell just to get attention” while she was cuddling into my legs and could hear him. I suggested that 5yo don’t usually lie about illness and that I had also told him on Friday that her teacher had said she had complained of a sore throat. She’s been up all night with a temp and been to the dr this morning and has tonsillitis. I’m so furious that instead of being kind and compassionate to a poorly child he withheld calpol and called her a liar. 😓 I feel like he has the least relationship with her, he talks of the other 2 really positively and is just awful towards the youngest. Would you class this as being abusive towards her?