ex wants contact!!! BLOODY CHEEK!!!

[angiebaby78]

just found out that exp dad of ds and dd1 wants to take me to court!! Not seen them for 3 years, not even turned up to contact centre cue to small kids crying for their rather incompetent daddy ! please tell me a judge will see snse for once and tell him to feck off.

Its quite sad reading some of the posts on here cause as always there are two sides to the story. I think we are all guilty of making assuptions about people before we look at all the aspects of the problem . Children should have both parents but surely not in this instance. Yes i am angry with him, not out of bitterness but out of the complete lack of respect he shows to his children, after all he was there at the conception. I would love them to have a normal relationship with him but he has never given me any reason to see that he is a good role model for them to look up to. Is it nice to be able to say that "my dad taught me how to roll a spliff the length of the coffe table"??? Why do you think he and i are not together any more ?? I

See now I can see why you have concerns. Hence why I asked if you had concerns for their safety. Clearly you do and so did those around you when they specified social worker to be present and in a contact centre.

I guess you could consider that as a starting point. Or you could fight your corner in court but i still think it likely the court will look for a compromise, probably back at the contact centre with a social worker/CAFCASS person around.

It won't look particularly good for him in court if he's gone straight to court without even approaching you and trying mediation to move forward on this. He hasn't even approached you about getting the current contact arrangement from 3 years ago restarted I assume?

After three years a judge might be willing to listen to him saying he's changed and got himself sorted out. So do you want to risk court where you don't know what a judge will order, or do you want to try mediation to find out why he now wants contact after all this time where you can hopefully come to some acceptable agreement to you both...
Tricky choice. I guess it all depends how serious and determined he is to see this through. and if he's willing to do whatever it takes to see his children, ie agreeing to teh social worker and contact centre again for a reasonable time to reassure everyone about the situation now.