Single mother life with and abusive ex

[SingleDepressedLonely]

I have been a single mother for the past 8 years now raising my son all on my own

I work full time and I provide the best I can for my child

recently after a court battle the judge has granted equal rights to my abusive ex who has remarried and isn’t bothered about his son

I know he has only done this to get one over me

My ex and his new wife are constantly verbally abusing me and since his met her the abuse has got worse.

He hasn't financially supported me apart from what CM has told him to pay. He just point blank refused to pay anything extra and this has started since he remarried otherwise he used to help out more in the past

My son seems to have a good relationship with his new step mum and only has good things to say about her. He enjoys spending time with her at her house. She has verbally abused me in the past and I can’t get over if this is an act or if she’s genuine

I don’t know where I went wrong in my relationship with my ex but the more I hear about his new relationship through my son the more it makes me wonder where did I go wrong for my ex to treat me the way he did

I’m constantly thinking about his new relationship and is he treating her better then he treated me. Why wasn’t I good enough?

It’s been 8 long years and I’m struggling to move on and meet new people as I am so traumatised by my past marriage.

I feel like he has taken so much from me and just swiftly moved on with out a thought for me or my well being. It makes me so angry

I just wish I could go back and do things differently I would change so much

i suppose I’m just looking for some advice and some comforting words

You need to grey rock, if you’ve been split for 8 years I’m not sure why you know so much about them or their relationship or even talk to her. Just grey rock. Also sadly he doesn’t have to finically support you and doesn’t need to pay more than the calculator.

I know so much because my son tells me about it and clearly my ex is flaunting his new relationship infront of my son so he can come back and tell me.

My ex is only treating his new wife well to get one over me and that’s the only reason. he thinks it will make me jealous when I hear of them travelling on lush holidays and their so called family trips.

but I know this act won’t last and his new wife will soon see through his abusive ways and it won’t be long before she leaves him too

I agree he doesn’t need to pay for more than what CMs is stating but with the cost of living soaring it’s common courtesy to pay more or help out towards other costs. I find it sad he can’t grow up and be a man and understand what it entails to run a house as well as be a full time single mother.

Clearly he has the funds to travel on lush holiday but he can’t pay extra towards his son.

First off OP please get out of that mindset that you are to blame,you are the victim and he is the perpetrator,sooner or later he will sadly show his true colours to his new wife he may be doing so already that maybe why she's being like she is towards you in the hope that he will go easier on her.

You have absolutely done nothing wrong responsibility for his behaviour is solely down to him and him only