Crazy ex

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MissSummers · 15/10/2023 21:24

I recently started dating someone and we hung out. My ex, (daughter's dad) calls me all the time, sometimes 60 times in a few hours. If I don't pick up the phone, he comes to my house. Today myself, my date and my daughter went for lunch and to the park. My ex kept calling and eventually I picked up the phone because he wouldn't leave me alone. I told him we'd gone to the pub and the park but didn't say we were with the guy I was dating. My ex was suspicious so he drove to my house, saw I wasn't there and then saw me driving home on the road outside my house. He then followed me down the street. I had to stop. He opened the car door and called my date a prick and said he wanted to take his daughter and took her. My date was very upset and so was I. He said he needed time to process this, says it's my fault and is calling me a liar... What should I do?

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Starlightstarbright2 · 15/10/2023 21:35

Who needs time to process?

where is your Dd now ?

calling 60 times is harassment and actually you can start logging this with the police

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MissSummers · 15/10/2023 21:37

She's with me and she's fine. Yes it is harassment. The date said he needed time to process but now he's blaming me for everything calling me a liar, immature and manipulative. I'm really upset.

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LittleOwl153 · 15/10/2023 21:41

Yeah 60 times is major harassment. He has no right to do this.

I'd block his number except when he has dd, and move all communication to a parenting app. You don't say how old dd is but I'd be suspicious of any phone he gives her and keep an eye out for air tags etc.

Does he leave you alone when he has her Or does he harass you then too? I'd probably seek a court order for contact - if nothing else to prevent him from saying he isn't returning her because you don't do what he wants.

AnneLovesGilbert · 15/10/2023 21:41

Block both of them and report your ex to the police. Don’t take your child on dates. She shouldn’t be meeting new men. Having a father like that is already damaging her.

LittleOwl153 · 15/10/2023 21:42

Dump the date.

And maybe look into the freedom course as you seem to have attracted a similarly controlling/ demanding lowlife.

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MissSummers · 15/10/2023 21:46

He always hassles me!

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GrazingSheep · 15/10/2023 21:56

How old is your daughter?

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MissSummers · 15/10/2023 22:04

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Whattodo112222 · 15/10/2023 22:26

How long were you dating for?

ChristmasCrumpet · 15/10/2023 22:32

The date sounds like an absolute Muppet. Unless there's a massive drip feed about how you'd told him you never really see your ex, he's no problems, it's all amicable etc...and then suddenly he's confronted by a weird man calling him names and following you both.

Report your ex, he has no right to harass you like that. And leave this date in the dust, sounds like a lucky escape.

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