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Anyone else??? Strange situation

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TickingKey46 · 13/10/2023 10:36

Not really sure why I'm writing this. But I suppose I'm looking for a bit of support especially if there are any other mums in the same situation.
I will try and keep this short!
Two children top end of primary school. There is a no contact order from the family courts regarding their father, needless to say he was abusive.
He became a homeless, drug addict who busks on the street. He appears to move around but has several times come back to the small town where I live. He doesn't know our address but does know the children's school.
Previously i have avoided him and the children have not been aware he's been in town. I felt this best as he did come looking for us at our old house (the owners came and told me).
But again he's come back to the small town where I live. Sitting in the centre of town busking and singing.
School are aware and tbh I'm pretty good with taking safety steps. Done all that I can and will continue to keep kids safe.
But it's clearly a recurring thing and even though I think he will leave soon, he will be back. It's obviously a struggle to handle this situation but we can no longer hide away and clearly need to except it for what it is and carry on with life like normal. But how have others coped? It's hard as the situation and his possible reaction is just so unpredictable.
Is there anyone in the same situation? Thank you

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TickingKey46 · 13/10/2023 17:28

Anyone got any advice? Please

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BoohooWoohoo · 13/10/2023 17:32

That sounds very worrying. Personally I would be looking to move away to reduce the likelihood of bumping into him.
Once the kids are older and do things like go into town with their friends, how do you think they'll react to seeing him? Do they remember what happened or are they likely to be duped by him and any claims of alienation that he fabricates?

Boundoverbyacat · 13/10/2023 17:37

Would they recognise him and vice versa? Maybe just give them advice on what to do if he approaches them. Is he dangerous?

TickingKey46 · 13/10/2023 19:14

I'm not really sure if he's dangerous or not, I think it probably depends on how out of it on drugs he is. It's certainly a major concern.
I don't want to move house and don't think it would be in the children's best interest anyway.
It's just a very unfortunate situation to be in.
Thank you for replying, feeling a bit over whelmed with it all atm.

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