Anyone with zero support?

[solosunflower]

So basically my DS's family amounts to me. Absolutely no one else. Has anyone else been in this situation? I'd love to find other mums in a similar position, but not sure how to go about it. We do go to baby groups etc and I've tried the peanut app.

I don't exactly have zero support but I have a high needs Sen child who no one but me can care for. It's relentless and lonely. When he was little I made some friends at groups, one we went to had a cafe on the same site and people hung about after. I also made a good support network at church

Yes me no family and ex and his family not involved. Being honest I’m not interested in making mum friends I just wish I had supportive family.

Try the FROLO app

What do you mean by support? In-person practical help? Emotional support i.e. someone you can call for advice or a shoulder to cry on?

I did it with virtually no family - none local or any real help..My child has additional needs..

I have to say building a village probably saved my life .. cub/ scouts - etc also a small break for me .

Zero help here. Nearly thirty years ago.

Both of our families lived miles away.

Husband's job relocated but he worked very long hours.
No wrap around care whatsoever.

Yes, same here. Just me, no family help ever. When your DS goes to nursery and then school you'll meet other mums and get to know them better. Invite other kids over for playdates so you can get to know the mums better 1:1. How old is your DS now? Did you do NCT?

I feel very lucky that I made some great friends through the above routes that have stood the test of time. None of them are lone parents, but that doesn't matter. They've been a fantastic support to me and would (and have) helped in emergencies. What about your friends from before you had children? Even if they don't have children, I am sure they'd want to support/ help you as much as they can?

My son is nearly 7 months.
Any type of support, really. DS has no contact from father or his family. On my side there is my brother and mother, neither are interested. Other than that I have the one friend.

@Nepmarthiturn I didn't do NCT.

It is early days for us with groups. Took a long time to get out and about because DS was a crier.

What I struggle with his no one caring about my son but me. 😢

Yep just me and my dc, I often worry what'd happen if I was ever ill or in hospital, scares the hell out of me actually.

I understand. It is a big weight to carry and makes you feel very sad. I know it has certainly made my children feel insecure that they only have me: they often say they don't want me to die and that nobody will take care if them. I've had to tell them that is not the case, that I have set things up with friends to be their guardians if I did die, because they were worrying about it and glossing over it didn't dispel that.  It does help that we have family friends like that, other adults as well as children, that they have known for many years. If your family can't/ won't be your village, you have to build you own. In time I hope you can make such friends and build that wider feeling of security for him (and for you!).

It's definitely worth you thinking about this before (dread to think) you might need some support.
Are your DC at school or nursery?
Do you have friends?
Or family? Even if they are far away it would be worth having a conversation about someone being an emergency back up.

Even a nice neighbour would, I'm sure, be willing to be on stand by.