Happy Mother's Day, I'm leaving...

[Leslaki]

yep!!! Still shell shocked!! Saw an email from his 'friend ' at work 0 very maniopulative female who has been trying to befriend me too (14 texts last sun!!)and the kids (secret presents of MONSOON handbags to dd - 4). Anyway he's gone! God!! Bolt from the blue and major shock. Now letf with a 4 yo and newly turned 6 yo (boirthday cards still up!!) and I only earn £500 a year as a TA in a primary school!!! I know this noghtmare will end and I will be better off on my own. Gonna try and get everything from the house sale and make him take responsibilty for HIS debts and then buy a smaller house and make a go of it with the kids, can anyone please give advice/help/tell me what to do??

Thanks!!!

What exactly happened?

bump. what happened indeed? are you okay leslaki?

So sorry - you must still be very, very shell shocked. Come back and tell us more/how you are when you can..

Lord thats pretty harsh. Could you apply to your local council for housing? I dnt really know what to say, thats just awful! You will be entitled to some benefits and maybe you could speak to the school and pick up some ectra hours or do some child minding to pick up a bit of extra cash. Might sound a bit naff to you but i have a friend who earns a bit of money from doing the avon catalogues. She can take the kids out in the buggy with her when she does it and at christmas she especially finds the money helpful. Stay strong. Things will turn out ok. hugs x

Get a solicitor, if there is a mortgage involved, no matter who's name it is in. DON'T listen to anything he says about 'sorting htis out amicably without solicitors', you need good legal advice. You will be entitled to tax credits and maybe housing benefit as well (depends on what happens with your current home). Good luck.

Leslaki how awful, you need to ring tax credits and put in a claim as a lone parent for child and working tax credits, contact the council aswell as you are entitled to a reduction in your council tax, shame he didnt take his debts with him.

Hi. Things beginning to look a bit more positive. I've been to see the building society and my lovely dad is willing to put his name on th emrtgage to let me keep the house/mortgage! I can afford it with ,maintenance and tax credits (hopefully!). Just gotta have a meeting with arsewipe x and doing that on Sun. Gotta get him to agree to give me the house and take his name of mrtgage. Also need him to agree to take on all debts. (he ran them up). Only way for me to keep the house unless I want to rely on him paying for everything till dd is 18!!! Can't trust him. Saw a solicitor and feel happier with knowing exactly where I stand legally. If he is going to put his kids first he may let me have the house - he aint gonna get much equity from it anyway as I need it for the kids. Still feeling shellshocked and am completely knackered and wiped oiut today - going all shaky! Just want it all to be over and know where I'm gonna be living with the kids.

so glad you are ok legally leslaki. you are fab to have sorted so much of the practical things straight away. well done! how are you feeling emotionally? good to know you have a lovely dad on your side. hope you're feeling ok...

How did your meeting with h go, leslaki?

sorry, just realised your meeting him this Sunday. My friend is going through the same thing. Glad things are looking up a iittle

hey leskali - Im in virtually the same boat -my new ex told me via e mail on the monday after mothers day the same thing and walked out 2 days later - Im still waiting to see a solicitor as Ive applied for legal aid - any hints you can help me with would be gratefully recieved. I too feel totally shellshocked apparantly hes been feeling pd off for yrs but conversation was never his thing(going out with boys golf etc was)I dont have any family - (my nearest are in Australia) at the ripe old age of 40 with a 7r old I feel like a total looser I have really let my daughter down all I can say is you are not on your own