anyone else desparately keen to find that special someone ???

[maltesers]

Are there any of you out there so very fed up being on your own and keen as hell to meet that special person to share your life with ??? I have been single now for 19 months and still have not found that long term relationship ..Have met several people but not met Mr Right ... beginning to become despondent. I have 3 kids, 19yrs, 17 yrs and a 7 yr old ds. Have lots of male friends but no special man in my life. Weekends can be pretty boring, and very lonely.....mothers day was pants. met someone for a drink thought he was going to have lunch with me but he had to take his mum out so spent the rest of the day alone., Big teenagers at UNi and with boyfriend and 7 yr at his Dads. Anyone else share my situation ???????????

I am extremely fed up. But 19 months isn't that long is it? I have been single since 2003 and only one snog in all that time! I really really really want a boyfriend. Wasn't that bothered until my snog last week, it just reminded me how nice it is to be in a couple. But it's not going to happen any time soon, the guy I met last week is too far away and it'll probably take me another 4yrs to meet another even slightly suitable man!

I totally share your situation. I have been single since 2003, and inititally was very happy to be single, in order to focus on my dds, however 5 years on, and I am really worried that this is it...that i've left it to late!!! I really want to meet someone, but not sure I can be arsed to go through the whole dating thing.

Yep me. Been single for 2 years and haven't had any dates/relationships or anything since I split with xp.

It sucks and I hate it alot.

Yes - but at the same time scared of making another massive mistake (by choosing the wrong person) and inflicting that on DS as well as myself.
It's only been a year for me but nothing - no interest/dates at all - so guess I don't really need to worry about the above at the moment!

I have been single for several years and at first I was just terrified of having everything go wrong again, having to pick up the pieces once more.

I think that I really learned that if I became as self-sufficient as i could - financially, emotionally and mentally, and more importantly, learnt to like me as me and to enjoy my own company, then I would know that I was ready to look for someone else. I am 36 and have two young DC and felt that the possibility of this acually happening now that I felt ready was literally zilch!

But I met someone a couple of months ago and he and I seem to share a lot of core values and thoughts about how we want to live. We met on a really small online introduction agency and the whole 'dating' thing has been quite exciting/scary/fun for both of us. Seems so odd to date now though....

Have you tried dating sites? I am such an introverted loner that I am really glad to have found another introverted loner - one of the good things about dating sites is that you can be really honest about your interests/hobbies/values etc and then hopefully attract those with similar or at least understanding of inmportance.

That's good advice about being self-sufficient squidler. Think some of my past 'mistakes' have been made out of desperation (including the desperation to have a child before I got too old!). Thanks - hope it works out for you with your new guy.

I wouldn't mind meeting someone else! I've been turned down on the grounds that I'm divorced (true, but it wasn't not a voluntary choice ) and because I'm a parent already.

I've been out on a few dates. All with single mothers, funnily enough - I think it's a combination of the fact that women in the age range I am interested in tend to have them and also because I think it may be easier to understand each other's situations to a certain extent. Before my ex and my son I would have run a mile from single mothers, but not any more.

Not that I am desperate to get into another relationship - there's a large part of me that is perfectly happy not having to worry that I'm being stabbed in the back (again) by someone I loved - but I do miss the company in the evening at night, the companionship, the sharing on in jokes' with one person and the us against the world' feeling.

i have been on my own for a year, apart from one silly fling last summer.
i do get attention when i go out, but i am soooo fussy i never fancy anyone.
i miss my ex like crazy and i know that with him still being in my head i will never give anyone else a chance.

i am so scared of feeling this way forever, next year i will be 30 and everyone keeps telling me it is all downhill from there! (have even found my first grey hair )