Not having someone to discuss things with

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Does anyone else struggle with not having someone to talk to about the issues of day to day life, not something you would tell friends I mean parenting issues? I have my mum but I could tell her something and her response will literally be “oh” that’s all I get from her doesn’t matter what it is she just isn’t any source of support. It’s hard not having a partner to discuss things with, I know people say they refer that about being a single parent as they get to make all the decisions but personally I would like to have someone that I can discuss things with. Just me?

Not just yet, I definitely miss having someone to talk about all the mundane crap that is too boring to talk to friends about.

I can talk to my mum but she tends to swoop in with solutions when sometimes I just want to moan 🙈😂

I wanted solutions or at least an opinion just something, not just oh and nothing else. Makes me wonder why I bother..

I feel the same OP - I have toddler twins and my mum and siblings just don't "get it" as raising twins as a single parent (and I have an older child too) is just totally outside their experience (parents and siblings both happily married). I feel like I burden them if I ring too much and there is also an element of pride too I suppose that I don't want to ask advice because then they might think I'm not coping

I could ask their dad but he left for very specific reasons relating to the children (he couldn't hack family life basically) so I begrudge even talking to him about them. If he was interested in parenting he would have stuck around. And I also don't want him to have the satisfaction of thinking that I need him either.

I totally get it, having a partner to discuss the children with / face obstacles together is a massive help. My parents are long gone and sibling far away and very little contact. It's just me holding it all up and trying my best day in day out. Can't remember the last time I had a phone call from my sister to see how I'm doing!! It can be lonely sometimes and daunting, I'm lucky the boys are growing into fabulous young people who value me and realise how important their mother figure is. I hope I can at least install in them the importance of family values. Something my stexh is very much lacking.

I'm due to be widowed, and to be honest this is one of the biggest things I worry about!

Just someone to weight up the big and little decisions, sort out which mobile contract is the best deal, whether its better for the kids to make their own packed lunch? What pocket money is reasonably? Am I really being the devil incarnate or is it the kids?

I really love having a different perspective offered on things (even when he's absolutely wrong, and I have to patiently explain).

Having a partner in life's trenches makes challenging times tolerable.

Thanks all I’m glad it’s not just me. I don’t see it as her allowing me to vent as I just feel like I’m talking to myself, she only ever says oh then goes offline, allowing me to vent would be offering support but not solutions. She doesn’t even offer that. I guess I just envy those that have a close relationship with their mum as even if I didn’t have an ex to speak to I could at least get support from my mum but there’s just nothing there. If I’ve typed out a long message I at least want something more than just oh. She’s basically telling me she doesn’t want to hear it. It’s the issues you would only really talk to a partner with like I’m having some problems with my sons school but there is no one to talk about it to (I don’t want to post on here) friends don’t want to hear it and don’t understand anyway I feel like people don’t really want to hear problems only good stuff so it’s difficult not having a partner to lean on.