Can I just have a moan

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Single parent for 6 years 2teen dc one with ASD who requires support in all aspects of life.
I work full time and also O/T one evening that I do remotely, that brings in enough to pay for our holiday.

I am just so exhausted all the time. Every weekend is taken up with house/ gardening/ elderly parents/ kids social life/ shopping/ hair / rubbish to the dump, the list is endless.
Then the mental load of all the organisation of running a home.

I have to do it all alone, no one to help out, the DC do chores and I have pretty low standards of housekeeping.

But it just never ends.
Today I am sick and still had to do a food shop, pick-up/ drop a child at sports, make lunch and make dinner.
Then the killer, ironing the school
shirts, thankfully only 5 now.

I know that before I was a single parent I gave no thought to the workload of the resident parent.

Its not just me is it?

I hear you.
I'm the same with no family support and doing everything myself. Sometimes I just crash and I have to spend my day off doing the absolute bare minimum so I can recharge.
Don't ever beat yourself up if you take shortcuts with dinner or house work etc.
it's relentless working full time and having no break from parenting ever.
Be kind to yourself, you are doing an amazing job and your family are always worth it.

Not just you. I’m a single parent to 4, 2 with asd and it’s relentless I don’t even get time off like other single parents as their father doesn’t bother with them and I have no family help.

Urgh I've still got the ironing to do

I have 2 year old twins and a 6 year old - twins are nightmares at bed times and I'm Lying here in the dark while they argue about something and I know I have a hiuuuge pile of ironing to do! Spent all day yesterday doing DIY on the outside - garden and house exterior before weather turns and I'm exhausted - then I've got the DIY inside on a never ending to do list too 😢

I hear ya! Two boys with autism, I'm forever juggling .. it's bloody hard work. But you know what, it's far better than the married life I did have!! At least now I'm not moaning about him doing nothing to help 😆

I’m only on day 9 of being a ‘co-parent’, but the ‘co’ part doesn’t seem to be going very well and I’m doing 99% of it myself. I’m exhausted already - didn’t time it well with back to school and my child’s 6th birthday the same week!
I’m mentally feeling better now that my ex has moved out but my god I miss the extra pair of hands! If I’m only a week in and feeling like this I dread to think what the future will be like, hopefully I just need to find my rhythm and get used to it.

That sounds exhausting. Does the useless father pay maintenance at least?

the only thing I can say is, stop ironing and get those poly cotton shirts, and don’t iron other bits of uniform, sheets, bedding, or …. anything really unless you’re in a public facing role where dress is super important.

sod the ironing. it's covered by a blazer anyway!

hope you get well soon. You are doing great!