Are mums doing it all or is it a shared household

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Wondering how sahm mums, working mums feel as I have experienced both. Do you feel like your partner contributes to tasks at home or just goes to work. Do you feel mums have so much pressure to do everything and are on a whole overworked and exhausted. I am a single parent but when I was in a relationship my partner went to work but did not do any household chores that was all me whilst I worked, studied looked after the children, prepared food etc. is that how the majority of women feel like this, even SAHM mums as I feel that is such a big unappreciated job where you get hardly any time of if any at all.

We both work and we both do the home stuff but no question I do more of the mental load. DH is really not bad but he has been socialised differently and it has showed up our entire relationship.

My ex wasn’t useless like all the ones I read about on here which is why it isn’t easier without him; he did his fair share; it’s been after he has left that he no longer bothers

I work 0.8 husband is full time (and then some) and works away a lot. When he’s home he is 50/50 without fail, and without nagging. I obviously do more when he’s away, but his job earns more that enables my part time working. I use my day off solely to enjoy spending time with my children not to do house work.

though as pp says, I definitely have more
of the mental load, if not the entirety of the mental load.

but he would never dream of going out multiple times a week over bed time etc and leaving me in the lurch. Likewise I wouldn’t dream of doing that to him. If we have things we want to do, we discuss and plan accordingly.

id say he’s been brought up well, but his brother is a useless, lazy and selfish git. I think it’s just he respects me as a person and respects our contributions to the family.

DS dad didn't really do house chores or a great deal. However there was someone to speak to sometimes, we went halves on bills, he watched our Son if I needed to go out and socialise and when I went to work.

Single parent NO it's not easier at all. I think sometimes people say it is as a throw away comment

We both work full time. He does help with things BUT all the life admin, planning etc falls to me - I'm exhausted this week. The mental load is harder to cope with than physical doing things in my opinion.