Single parent

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Hi everyone. I'm basically here to ask anyone if being raised by a single mum affected them. Reason being my daughters dad walked out when she was 3 weeks old and hasn't been seen or heard of since. I can handle things alone, I'm doing really well imo. She's fed, clothes, plenty of playtime, always smiling and laughing. However, I have read stuff about the detrimental effect having no father figure can have on a child and it's terrifying me in case no matter what I do, she's doomed because of the awful father I chose for her (not that I'd known any of this was going to happen). But to get to the point, I'd like to hear from you guys raised my single mums or dealt with abandonment from your father, how did it affect you?

Brought up by single mum. Followed all of the typical detrimental events attributed to being from a lone parent family.

-Also sorted myself out by age 22 and now have a very 'successful' life. I'm certain this is because my mum put a lot of emotional effort into parenting so I was able to reverse or remedy poor decisions/happenings.

I didn't care at all about not having a dad. My mum was enough for me.

Yes it did affect me very much actually. People say it doesn’t but a lot of the time it does. I can already see having no father is affecting my children also.

My mum raised me on her own. I am happy, healthy and just recently became a mum myself. I love my mum so much and appreciate everything she has ever done for me. Me and my dad have reconciled but I haven't forgotten his actions and it has only made my connection with my mum stronger. It was hard understanding as a child, keep an open communication as your child gets older and just understand it's difficult for a small child to comprehend sometimes. You're doing amazing and should be very proud of yourself

She will always be negatively effected by the absence of her biological father..even if she were to get a good father figure..

The lack of a bio parent will be felt throughout entire life.

Please as she grows and starts asking questions, tell her the truth, and give her the bio dads information if asked.

Please if she is ever to get a step father, especially in early years, do not pretend that he is her bio dad.

She deserves to know, no matter how unfortunate.

Single parent raised adult here - I was very young. Academically my sister and I excelled - she went to Oxford and I went to Cambridge. We are both successful in our careers and have good lives. I do believe though that the conflict between my parents affected me and I have had poor mental health at times. Just try for the sake of your child to get along or protect her from any conflict. Thst is what is damaging. Otherwise fear not she’ll have a great life - it’s not always best for children to be with two parents

This gives me hope, thank you! Although I am sorry to hear about your struggles with your mental health. He hasn't attempted to contact regarding a relationship with my daughter and has explained to his family he has no interest in doing so, so for now the chances of conflict are very slim. Of course it might not always be the case but I will try to keep any communication that may come in the future calm for her sake.

You’ll do a great job! Good luck

My kids are affected by their father's behaviour but they have advantages that others don't have so have become successful and happy young people. By advantages I mean stuff like I was able to stay in the same nice area so they didn't have to change schools, they are popular at school so had a good experience there, they were academically fine so had choices as they progressed...
They have dated and picked good gf/bf too which is good because I worried that seeing my relationship with their dad would screw them up.