What to do if teen wants to move in with dad

[Cornishmama74]

Ive been resident parent since spitting with 14 year olds dad when they where a baby, still single and financially not great as lionshare of parenting on my shoulders. Dad is 3 hours away, has built up career, is very wealthy, remarried & had 3 more kids. New family have been increasingly laying it on thick how much the new kids miss when teen is not around (alternate weekends & half holidays) and spoiling them rotten. Despite having a great relationship I have noticed teen withdrawing, becoming uncharacteristically hostile & feel it is only a matter of time until they ask to go live where their new siblings are. I am beside myself. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle that conversion if it arises?

Don't hold him back, let him go, he thinks it will be all sunshine and roses, but he will wake up and decide its not what he thought, its OK going eow holidays and getting spoilt, but dad won't beable to keep up the Disney look all year round.

Do you think he would want to change school? That would probably be a bigger issue for him than changing his main home at that age TBH.

@Cornishmama74 I've just been through this with my 16 year old son.
His dad left when he was 18 months old. He had an affair and moved in with the other woman. They married a few years later.
His dad moved 3 hours away from us.
Over the years both his dad and his wife have our so much pressure on my son to live there. He initially said when he was 10 he wanted to move there but then changed his mind. His dad took me to court for access even though I never stopped access.

When my son was 14, he again talked about moving there but decided to stay at home.

He talked about going there for college. He decided on the day he got his GCSE results he was going to move thete. I was devastated as I hated the throughly if not seeing him and I worry as his dad isn't a good role model. He is getting divorced again and works shifts so not around much.

I realise this is something my son had to go and he left to go there last Thursday. I'm still gutted but I know deep down it's something he has to try. His dad has bought him a motorbike, got him a new phone and a cat.

I'm re married and have a 3 year old. I also have a 20 year old daughter who has the same dad as her brother but hasn't seen him for 10 years.

I really feel for you going though this but all you can do is be there to support your child and let them know you will always be there for them

Thank you for sharing your story. I applaud your strength