at what point will I actually start to enjoy 'me time'..... exactly???

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ds ,for the first time, has gone to stay with his father tonight. So far i have managed to cry.... a lot. Burn my tea, under cook my 'special treat no child in the house' pudding, Cut my leg shaving whilst in my 'me time bath' and realise that the bath bomb a thought i bought was infact just a lump of soap.
I have no enthusiasm for the expensive bottle of wine i bought, there is crap on the telly and i am feeling utterly fed up!!!!!
ooph!

'me time' is highly overrated. What you actually need is 'talk to other adults about something other than children and perhaps have a drink or two time'

agree that saturday night telly is crap

Oh babes I have shitty nights like that too, kids don't stay over at his but hey stay at grannies and I am having a lonely night too.

I did manage a not too bad night last Sat even though I was meant to be going out and got cancelled on. So I had a huge veggy enchilada and wine, was Ok.

Don't try to hard, chill and try to relax a bit.

I just started another thraed about not having pals to call on for nights like this, that would be the best soulution to have a gilrs night in or out.

I think next time.... it will be a girls night out!!!

This is the third message I've started. Actually, I haven't got the answer but I'm sorry you are feeling so bad. Possibly wallow - put on sad music, open the wine and let all the negative stuff out. Try an early night.

Or dig out an old dvd - I've recently rewatched Fawlty Towers and Little Miss Sunshine and they both made me laugh again.

Both the good and bad moments can just creep up on you. Just go with it. Is DS home tomorrow? Can you plan something for then that will give you a lift?

your so right..... the bad moments do just creep up om you, everytime i make a noise i automatically hold my breath and wait to see if i woke up ds.... then my heart sinks when i realise he is not there!!!! OPH wallow it is tonight, but hey must look on the bright side, at least i can put the stereo on with out waking anyone up!

So, it's dancing round the living-room, then . It is OK to find it hard and cry - life wasn't supposed to be this tough.

Night-time makes it seem worse, too, IME. Often what feels so awful at night, in the cold light of day, is do-able.

Roll on having DS home.

3 hrs and counting!!!! loooong night!

Next time, go to the pub!

i remember the first time i dropped dc2 at nursery and went home to an empty house for two whole child-free hours - i had been soooooo looking forward to it and when I got there i had no idea what to do and just rattled around achieving nothing and getting cross because I knew the time was slipping through my fingers!

Adult company is definitely the answer - girls night in is perfect, but going dc-free shopping and trying on loads of clothes and talking to shop assistants is better than nothing!

Make a vow now - I Will Enjoy It Next Time!

Happy Mother's Day!

Loads of good ideas. Sometimes, you will feel awful but it does get easier. Did Ds have a good time?

'NEXT TIME I WILL ENJOY MYSELF!!!!!!'
Oh and yes of course he had a good time, think he was spoilt rotten!..... not knocking that as it is exactly what i would do if i only saw him alt w/e's!
Have to keep telling myself he is entitled to love his dad as much as he loves me!!!!!!!!
He was pleased to come home though.

I hate it when ds isnt in the house. I spend near enough all my time with him and i dont know what to do with myself when he isnt here. Most of the time i sit and cry but its good in a way. I would rather cry when he is not around and spare him the tension.
Its also good to get rid of all of your negative feelings. Feeling sad isnt a bad thing and just shows how much u love ur child. Takes time to get used to it but it does get better. It always better if your out of the house and kept busy too, so let ur hair down and have fun!!!