Abusive, narcissistic ex husband did something terrible a few years ago and was not allowed contact with the children. We had Cafcass involvement and 2 years of legal battles which included psychological risk assessments, therapy/courses to reform behaviour and a stepped progression to unsupervised contact. Those who know the ins and outs are baffled as to how he has full unsupervised contact (including the kids school) the whole process cost around £30k just for me in legal representation and probably more for him. We are 8 weeks into unsupervised contact and it’s all just going wrong again. To the point my dc1 made a disclosure to school (before summer so literally 3 weeks into unsupervised) who phoned through to social services whose advice was, CAO in place so they cannot help. 👀 does this mean he is just allowed to do whatever he wants to because he always gets to see them on the court ordered days?? Or do I now have to go back through the legal route to tell them they were all (obviously!!) absolutely wrong about the man and he quite clearly said and did things in the court arena just to tick the boxes and not because he was a changed man!!
the reason for the rant this evening is that dc2 has come home again absolutely crazy emotions everywhere and wetting themselves, which I have noticed them doing for 2 days after contact the last 3 times. Dc1 told me about some bullying from their dad towards dc2 which explains a lot about dc2 behaviour in return home. It makes me so sad but also so angry at the system. ðŸ˜