Abusive ex - how much is acceptable?

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I get horrible messages from my ex. Do I just have to put up with it, the price for picking an abuser as an ex. Its so distressing. Feel so depresses but children still young so when will it end?

Give him an email address that is used for the purpose of contact arrangements and block him on everything else.

Do your dc have unsupervised contact? Has it gone through a court judgment? If it has then report him to the court.

Also keep note of EVERYTHING. This is your hard evidence.

Didn't go through courts. He's very charming snd manipulative and I'd be so scared the court would be fooled. He has a good job and appears very professional. I can't stop crying.

Oh my love, no you’re going to be ok.

Courts have seen thousands upon thousands of men like him - polite, nice, good job. They see through it very easily, I promise.

Can you get in touch with women’s aid tomorrow? Honestly they are such a big help and can guide you into the right direction.

You're going to go be ok. No matter how hard this but is you will come out the other side.

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/

In my experience this is incorrect.

Any way you can block him?

Just to echo the PP above. My ex made allegations against me which went to family court. It was all completely fabricated and I was terrified that the professionals involved would believe him because he's very successful at work and can charm the birds out of the trees. But they saw right through it and I had evidence to back up my innocence and he didn't have evidence to prove the contrary.

They see these types of people day in day out. Please don't let him scare you into not taking action.