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please can i have a rant???

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msann · 14/12/2004 11:08

hiya...my case for contact has been going on 4 so long that its way to complicated 2 explain it fully. in brief my ex didnt have any contact (thru his own doing) with dd1 & 2 for 18 months, he then acquired a girlfriend who i assume has persuaded him to resume contact with my children. he has taken me to court on 4 occasions & to cut a long story short we are going to court again in Jan to give statements & b cross examined. He sees them evry other saturday from 9 - 6. I have agreed for him to have special occasion contact on the eve of every special occasion .... but now he wants telephone contact TWICE A WEEK! (theyre only five & seven years old) and he also wants extra holiday contact. I have refused the telephone contact point blank because they are too young. and i have refused the holiday contact due to the fact that my daughters HATE with avengance the smoke inhalation (from him & his gf) that they are subjected too, & they have also witnessed a serious assault by one of their dads friends & had to b questioned by police, and also their dad is 'of no fixed abode'. Im sick of it all!!! am i being unreasonable??? all comments/suggestions of what to say in court welcome!!

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aloha · 14/12/2004 11:12

Um, I don't think the phone contact is at all unreasonable in itself. My dh calls his daughter every night and has done for years and years - she lived with him until she was four and I met him when she was six. Your situation is clearly different and I wouldn't be keen on my son going to smokers either, to be perfectly frank. Also the holiday contact would be a huge problem if he is really of 'no fixed abode' though not sure what you mean by that. I don't think five and seven year-olds are too young to have a quick chat on the phone though. Sorry.

lockets · 14/12/2004 11:13

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msann · 14/12/2004 11:16

i do not speak to ex (as he threatened 2 shoot me last xmas) so i do not want him telephoning my house...i also find it unreasonable that i wud have to organise our lives around being beside the telephone twice a week so he could ring. he has suggested providing them with a mobile telephone which i think is ridiculous!! At their age i dont think that there is anything of such importance that they need to have immediate telephone contact with him. if they become ill then i will b able to contact him myself

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msann · 14/12/2004 11:18

lockets: is awful - & what is worse NO ONE has taken any notice of me when i have complained about the assault (which he denies but dd1 can give full gory details) or the smoking

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aloha · 14/12/2004 11:18

Um, I don't think the phone contact is at all unreasonable in itself. My dh calls his daughter every night and has done for years and years - she lived with him until she was four and I met him when she was six. Your situation is clearly different and I wouldn't be keen on my son going to smokers either, to be perfectly frank. Also the holiday contact would be a huge problem if he is really of 'no fixed abode' though not sure what you mean by that. I don't think five and seven year-olds are too young to have a quick chat on the phone though. Sorry.

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