Always feeling like I'm giving in to him

[Ilovesleep]

I'm really feeling like xp whinges about something, and then goes on and it seems like he's making me out to be a bitch, so in the end I cave in to him. It's really got to me tonight, and over something as petty as concert tickets. I've already given in to him over the house, so he's getting half my bloody deposit, simply because I just want rid of him and can't be arsed with the hassle. I've spent 10 years paying off his debts, but he can't even acknowledge that, and then give up work & look after him for 2 years after he had an accident. I don't begrudge that btw, it sounds like I do...he's just really peed me off today over these blimming concert tickets and I need to shout about it.

learn to say no

Who paid for the tickets ILS?

god i always do this, my mum says i am a doormat. i just cant stand the idea of him going round telling people what a bitch i am and how i use the kids as pawns (i dont, i just dont think its appropriate for my kids to see ex dh in bed with his new pregnant gf, so i said they cant visit unless she is not there)

Dont know what to suggest, other than just be harder with him?

No littlewoman, I paid for the tickets (out of my own account, not our old joint one). Basically bought Foo Fighter tickets before we split up. Bought extras to sell on, so agreed that he could have 2 of them at face value. He's going to have Fri tickets & I'm going to have Sat tickets. He's stropping because he wants to go on the Sat, and he's also trying to get me to let him have another 2 tickets (at face value). I'm standing my ground on this, no way is he going ont he Sat and I'm not letting him have anymore tickets. If he wants more he can go to ebay. But he's stropped over it, called me names in front of the boys, upset ds1 and made me feel like crap for it. He behaves as though I'm being totally unreasonable for trying to keep something that is mine anyway (and this is over everything, not just these tickets).

According to him I'm unreasonable for wanting all proceeds from house sale. I put down 100% of the deposit (unfortunately put it down as joint interest), I paid all the solicitors fees, paid off £15K credit card debt he was in from my Grandfathers inheritence, have paid off a further £8K of credit card debts that he ran up a couple of years later, got myself into debt to sort out his debt , he has £40K sat in the bank (that I'm not going to try to get hold of), but I'm moneygrabbing!

Sorry, just wanting a rant really.