Hi all
I was unhappily married to lil ones Dad and it ended very traumatically with him leaving me whilst I was pregnant for another woman and then moving to Cornwall with her. It's been very stressful, but divorce was final early 2021.
I had about 3 years on my own with little one until I started dating and now have a new partner... we've been together about 9 months.
Don't live together but see him a lot and it feels very different with him being very caring and having a lot more in common intellectually. I feel involved with his family and cared for which I didn't have in my previous marriage - I just felt like a burden to my ex.
Neither of us own properties, he still lives with parents and has been saving for some time for a deposit. I've told him let's give it at least a few years before moving in together.
His parents mentioned last week they'd like us to potentially buy their house.. although they'd had a drink ;)
Talked to other half about it the day after but I said it seems way out of budget.. is in a very nice area and 4 bed.
I did suggest perhaps we could rent it instead from his parents that sounded more feasible?
But again I wouldn't want to rush this.. I suppose renting does seem more comfortable in the first instance than buying together.
It would mean changing areas for me and living further away from my parents who've been my rock through the divorce etc. However they'd be about 30 mins drive away so not like it's miles and miles.
I wonder what other people's experience of moving on in these way after divorce or separation are?
Of course with children it's always different and adds another layer. Would mean applying for a primary school place at a different school to current nursery. But lil one doesn't start reception until next September.
Feels very exciting to imagine a new life in a home together in a new area.. but also like I'm saying goodbye to my comfort blanket.
Honest opinions welcome.