It’s so hard and I’m exhausted

[blackheartsgirl]

Is anybody else parenting but doing it almost completely alone with little or no support?

i have 4 dc, 2’are young adults and two early teens. Both fathers have turned out to be completely useless and the father of the teens is an abusive toxic arsehole and has cut his dc off and wants nothing to do with them which has hurt them very much.

My dh ( my kids wonderful stepdad) died quite suddenly 2 years ago and I now have very little support, my mum has cancer too is elderly and quite self obsessed at times, I have no siblings or aunts or uncles or cousins and all my friends are married or in relationships

its bloody hard and I just feel like a huge weight is crushing me, everything is down to me, 3 of my dc have additional needs too which is more pressure and it’s pretty lonely.

I went to an event over the weekend and it brought it home to me just how shit this all is. All happy families in big groups helping each other out and having a great time and there was me. I go to my dd13 football presentation evening and then sit there watching my friends glued to their husbands, in little family groups and I got put on a table near the toilets by myself.

it’s just shit

I’m sorry its so shit. It’s crap having to power on when you are exhausted but have no choice. And no one even to recognize or appreciate how hard you are trying and working flowers] .

🙏🏽☘️

Yes those school events where you're on your own are very hard and I remember swallowing down tears on more than one occasion.

I think it's that you have to be the proud parent and the child's father is nowhere to be seen so there's no one to share that special moment with.

You are not alone, is all I can say. Totally relate to what you are saying, I'm doing it all by myself as well, it can be extremely hard and draining. Hang in there

I am in a similar ish boat except my abusive ex often shows up at these events to showboat and claim DC’s accomplishments as his own. It is excruciating for me to witness. I am always on my own too as I work two jobs and have little time for school gate chatting so I haven’t made any friends there.

I came home the other night after a presentation evening and had a little cry at how hard and lonely it all is. I’m sorry you are going through this. you are not alone and we deserve better.