I'm bored of being on my own now, and begining to wonder what the hell is wrong with me too.

[nutcracker]

Just that really. I so hate my own company.

If I met a handy bloke my mum'd be straight round with a long list of diy jobs for him!

...and I'd throw hers in the bin and replace it with my massive list!!

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You can read this in the morning! Have a good sleep!

I defo would've gone ahead with the split but my life since has been far harder and more lonely than I ever imagined. We're almost destitute while he's living it up on pots of money (I mistakenly thought he'd do right by his kids), the divorce is extremely difficult and going to be very expensive (cos of my H), my friends haven't 'rallied round' as I thought they would (they supported me as I made the decision for him to leave but then they vanished as I fell apart), I can't get a decent job because of childcare and that impacts on my money situation and finally I'm on my own far too much. Oh the joy of it all!!

Not that having a man would change any of the above but it would mean company for me!

Oh and my beloved dog (aged 3) died last week and it's made me even more lonely - if that's possible!!!!!

Well you never know what's round the next corner....ARGH!!!!!!!!!!

Hiya Yorkiegirl

I fancy speed dating just for a laugh but they are on a sunday round here and I only get a friday night without the kids and haven't got a babysitter for any other nights. Also I'd feel a spanner going on my own, I'd need a single friend to come with me to have fun with too.

you are so not on your own, its difficult when you come out of a relationship because the majority of your mates are either married or settling down, i wish i knew the answer because im having the same problem, dont need a man need a life

I don't need a man, I just need a housemaid!!

Saw this magnet, and really liked it! But seriously, I don't need a man, but having the option of one would be great!

Im in a similar position, never go out. And never bump into handsome men in the supermarket, etc as for men in work, omg im not desperate

The longer I carry on being single the more I think I will be single for ever. Im used to it being me and the kids, so for a man to come along and fit in, well, it would take a very special man. I dont meet any men, so to meet a special man is unlikely.

Never go out either, and even if a man chatted me up I wouldnt know what to do now!!

Is the 2nd picture up you? you don't look how I'd expected you to.

I never really get any interest either and I consider myself fairly attractive. I just think once you've left uni and if you don't work with a young, single crowd it's hard to meet people..

Did you mean me Mascara ? About the pic I mean ??

I know what you mean Amazinwoman, I think that the longer I am single, the harder it will be to meet someone anyway.

YG - I couldn't go sped dating, I just don't have the confidence at all.

Cat - Sorry to hear about your dog

sorry, yes - I meant you.. I only read the OP lol.

I am finding myself in bed at 9 pm just so that im not sitting on my own.
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Oh I do that CC.

Yep the pic is me and Dd1. I'm intrigued as to what you thought I looked like now LOL.

you really must start going out! otherwise there is no way you will meet anyone!
i go out about once a fortnight, its good fun to have blokes looking at you, even if you dont like them back..
i havent met anyone yet, split with ex nearly a year ago and have had a couple of dates and one fling, but nothing proper.
im sure that one day i will though.

Where's this photo?

I agree with Amazinwoman, the longer I'm on my own the harder I think it's gonna be to allow myself to be in a couple - if you see what I mean!

I'd just like some mates to go out with, male and female, and start enjoying life again!

hi nutty - you look just as i imgined, was thiking that was a wry smile rather than fatigue. oh, forgot my feature wall from the other thread - is the colour behind you, a lightish brown, cant remember the name, something daft, will come to me no doubt

Nutcracker, I know it's old fashioned, but what about an evening class? You could learn something, meet new people ( not just men), so it wouldn't be a waste of time.

Also what about joining a gym? You could exercise and ogle fit men at the same time?

yeah - i'd agree, anything that has you mixing with people outside of normal home life could be good. the trouble i'm stuck with is i work on my own all day, home to the kids, and then often work evenings - on my own. dont get out anywhere to meet anyone so am stuck this way for the foreseeable future. oh, i do like your pic of your comp being where your friends live - we really need to get out into the real world

I really think that it is imperative to get out there and meet new people, gain confidence. Then see what develops later.

Takes the pressure off trying to meet Mr/Ms Right in Sainsbury's

(Wish I could take a dose of my own medicine, I have been meaning to join an evening class for around 6 months!)

Trouble with an evening class is, that I can't rely on xp to be available all of the time and my mum works different shifts each week.

I should change the caption of that pic that says I am knackered, as i look tons worse today, have been up a ladder painting the ceiling all day LOL.

I'm sure I will think of a way to get out and meet people soon, hopefully by way of a job.

You know it is weird. I always think that I couldn't just start chatting to someone, but today I asked this guy for directions and when he answered that he couldn't help as was lost himself, I asked him where he was looking for, told him I didn't know it LOL and then after I walked off I thought, how easy it had been to talk to him and if needs be I could have carried on the conversation.

I think I need to just have more faith in myself sometimes.

nutcracker n catnkids where bouts you from?

I'm in Cheshire!

thats hollyoaks land lol cant believe theres no talent for you there!!! seriously though when my ex left me i thought it was game over bein a single mum but then when i least expected it i met DP and now i got 2 kids and my 1st is much happier than when her dad was around. it just happens when its meant to....if ur ever in preston....the girlies are waitin!! u dont always need single mates to have a laugh

hey youve started painting - is good to see youre doing the ceiling first, oh, the only trouble i have talking to people is its usually complete drivvel tho you probably noticed already.
and yep - a little confidence goes a long way - would just say be yourself, bright n cheery if a bit knackered, anyone who's already thinking 'hmm, i wonder...' will soon pick up on it - is just the way we are.

You need a hobby of some description, even something like pub quizzes - something that gets you out of the house and mixing with other adults. Have a look in the local paper as there are always groups and organisations listed, and pick something that sounds like fun in itself (because even if it's full of other single women looking for men then there are ready made go-out-ont-he-pull-together friends).

This is a good reason to be alone