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am i over reacting?

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ToddlerMumTrooper · 08/07/2023 10:23

as a working fulltime single mum my support system is small, litterally my dad and one friend, thing is my friend is getting on my nerves, we met in a DV hostel, she was in there due to homelessness and i was in there for DV and homelessness, ever since ive known her shes always given me jealous vibes, everything i do she does, prefect example, in my previous job i had booked a centre for my daughters birthday and a holiday, then same week she books her daughters party at same place, i said i wanted a mascot and had booked one, then she booked one, said i wanted a bouncy castle, then she booked one, i booked the holiday to disney then magically she booked one, when i lost my job i had to cancle everything and felt like a complete failure to my daughter, complete lack of support, for months she just went on about her daughters party and booking and getting almost everything i had planned for my daughter, then she couldnt afford this so called booked holiday so her dad booked her one to Turkey, and everytime i saw her had to smile and be happy for her, (she doesnt work and claims PIP for aniexty which funny enough her panic attacks never seem to happen around her partner and was completely fine going and being on holiday), eventually i got a new job, its not local and is nearly an hours drive from where i live, she said if i got my daughter into the playgroup in the village she would drop off and pick up on the playschool days when i had work and the childminder would have my daughter on the other days, however i kept asking her if she was ok with having my daughter she said yes anyway it had been a month into my new job things going really well, she finds out shes "pregnant" thought to myself then in a few days shes going to say shes miscarried (seems to be every couple of months this happens even when she was on B/C ), one day i go to pick up my daughter after work asked her if she was ok with looking after my daughter as could see she was down she said yes, next morning i find she had sent me a message at 1 am (read at 6am) saying when the summer holidays hit she will no longer have my LG, i was annoyed! that gave me a weeks notice still on 3 month probation with job and childminder on holiday till 24 i discussed it with my boss who said i could work from home for a few days and take rest as annual leave yesterday i texted her you still ok to have my LG till 12th when kids break up she then replies and says she meant the pre school break up which was that day! my boss isnt happy im worried they will get rid of me and its a massive thing because i work with vulnerable people as a support worker, so boss said i can take one week as a/l and the other week unpaid, and my friend who doesnt work and unsurprising had a miscarriage within two days doesnt care! she knew my situation at work and something like this could make it difficult shes not a single parent and has a massive support network with extended family and doesnt give the impression she cares at all, sometimes i think she wants me to loose my job and stay single and unhappy, am i over reacting with my emotions? im scared if i confront her ill be in the wrong. ive managed to book a holiday for next year but when ever i talk about the holiday or work she changes the subject onto her about something complete different its like she doesnt want to hear im happy

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AtlasPine · 09/07/2023 06:56

Cut yourself loose for both of your sakes. You don’t sound to like her and why should she do childcare? She’s letting you down and seems to want to break free anyway.

I hope you manage to find something more reliable for your little one.

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