Co-Parenting Schedules

[thethreemuskateers]

I’ve been split with my ex 2 years he has a youngest son one night a week alternate Fridays and Saturdays.

We started off with a schedule which was working. I’ve been laid up after an operation and since then he has started to message the day before or the same day with a schedule that works around him and what his weekend plans are.

I’m fed up of not knowing what time he’s going or coming back.

Do other single parents have a schedule?

No my ex barely sees the children it’s been 2 months since.

Yes a schedule helps everyone know what's going on. We have some room for movement and there's some give and take but on the whole it's the same each month.

Thanks I’m going to change to set times, he’s very controlling and I feel this is his way to still have some control.

I’m quite willing to changes times and days with notice but I don’t see why I should constantly be waiting for him to decide what time suits him.

We have a schedule. Every other weekend, half of smaller school holidays (added on to the weekend ) and a holiday in the summer to be mutually agreed by both parties. We are both flexible if something comes up and it messes with a weekend, as a pp said, there is room for movement and some give and take. My ex would never just assume that he could change his weekends, or dictate when he was having them basd on his social plans before checking with me first.

Pleaaaase can somebody tell me how they manage to single parent and work?
I do shift work so my shifts start at 7am. My LO nursery opens at 7.30am. I currently work the weekends that he's with his dad but that's not a sustainable income.
I've just asked The Dad if he can have LO for the 2 hours before nursery 1 day a week so I can pickup extra shifts. He said no, he doesn't want to sacrifice that amount of time and that he's a busy man. His next message was threatening to have LO monday-friday (which he doesn't actually want, he just knows it's my worst nightmare and I'd decline).
I feel like it's me against the world at the minute. How am I supposed to provide for my child AND maintain a career? Its just such an uphill battle trying to do the best thing for our little family whilst everything seems against me.