How do you start to heal after a break-up?

[whatsthesenseinsharing]

As the title suggests? How do you begin to heal after breaking up with someone who was not your person, despite attempts to make it work!

Not my children's father either. Seems like wasted time energy and effort on my part. It's amicable, but still sad.

The children feel it's for the best also, there is sadness in their eyes also.

How do you cope and manage whilst nursing a heavy heart?

Hi @whatsthesenseinsharing

How long has it been? I would say healing takes place at a pace that feels right which is different for everyone .

It's only been a couple of days. Feels like I have to process a loss first before starting to grieve... For what could've been.

How are you coping? Is there any hope of a reconciliation?

Sadly not. Can't reason with someone who doesn't or can't see beyond themselves

I've sent a dm @whatsthesenseinsharing

Oh OP, I've been there.
On all honestly nothing I or anyone else will say will make the difference. A heart and mind heals in time. You just have to get through this early period and I promise you, it will get better. A month from now you won't feel the same, 2 months further you won't... this time next year you will not feel this way!!! I promise you, you won't. It won't be like this forever.
You have to accept you're going to go through lots of different stages of grief, hurt and acceptance but also know that it won't all be miserable. You'll come out the other side a new version of yourself!
Try and keep busy, find little pleasures, set small goals, think of the steps in front of you, not the mountain.
It will get better, I 100% promise you ♥️

Thank you so much. I am prepared for a 'grow through what you go through' phase at moment, I feel numb to a lot of my world but hoping that will pass in time. Good to hear you do come out the other end.. hopefully a better version 💖