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Lowest Ebb (Beware Rant About To Occur)

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TwoIfBySea · 22/02/2008 10:53

I just hit it, as if I thought it couldn't possibly get worse. The new girlfriend who "couldn't get pregnant" (yeah, right pull the other one) well she is.

Lets hope ex is better at being father to this one than he is dts. It is like I just keep getting kicked and I have had enough, I give up, I can't take anymore. I am about boiling at the injustice of him walking off, leaving us in a mess I will need years to sort out...god I need to get a lawyer.

It is the blackest of black days today for sure. Not that I ever wanted another baby to the lying dirtbag but...I just give up. I can't take anymore. What are dts going to think that he left and is now going to be playing happy families with her while they are stuck with me? I just can't see a way out of our situation, the light at the end of the tunnel is always turning out to be an oncoming train.

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TwoIfBySea · 22/02/2008 10:54

And to top it off I still don't have internet access at home!

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littlewoman · 22/02/2008 12:44

I really do sympathise with your pain, TIBS. It is totally unfair that he walked away from his responsibilities, especially if you didn't want the relationship to end, that makes it worse. I think it would kill me if his GF got pregnant because of how it would affect my children. People always say it won't hurt the children, but if it hurts you, an adult, how much more will it hurt a child, for goodness sake? Well, now his new dp will be in the same situation you were. If he was a dirtbag to you, he will be to her too, so feel glad that she is going to learn how that feels. Shame another child has to suffer though.

jellibabe · 23/02/2008 13:09

TwoIfBySea I don't know what to suggest and can only guess how much this must hurt. Agree with littlewoman this will certainly give his new girlfriend a new prespective on your situation. Hope someone else has some good advice for you.

allgonebellyup · 23/02/2008 13:17

i am in the exact same situation if it helps, my ex's new girlfriend told him she cant get pregnant - then wham! suddenly she is expecting his baby in May, due on my birthday

I was on the floor when i found out, suicidal, i had been trying to get back with him when i found out what happenened.
You have my utmost sympathy, it hurts like hell doesnt it??
i really hope you are ok, the pain will dull a little over time, thats all i can say!

carolyn1941 · 23/02/2008 13:36

sending you some kind thoughts....

littlewoman · 23/02/2008 14:28

Twoifbysea and allgonebelyup, I hope acid rain falls on their knackers. At least.

skyatnight · 23/02/2008 14:36

Sorry TwoIfBySea. Shitty news.

Who are all these women pretending they are infertile?! I must be really naive. Do they think this is a good way to get a guy to commit - it's really going to lead to happy-ever-after, isn't it (not)? I wouldn't want to be the child in that set-up.
(Mind you, being honest doesn't seem to have done much for me.)

I know what you mean by the light at the end of the tunnel being a train. I never seem to get properly back on my feet before something else knocks me back down again.

You sound like you are really in despair. Second AGBU - just stay alive until the pain dulls a bit. I'm thinking of turning to religion.

mummyfantastico · 24/02/2008 06:56

How awful for you, that is one thing that i'm worrying will be coming at some point from xh and his gf.
It's unlikely he'll be any better this time around.

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TwoIfBySea · 26/02/2008 14:43

allgonebellyup, we can give each other sympathy although I was never going to take him back.

I go to the lawyer on Thursday to start divorce proceedings. I hate lawyers. Time to make sure that he is legally tied into facing up to his responsibilities with us before anything else.

And I've known a couple of girls who use that hook, that they can't have babies, to get men specifically so they can have a baby. It is a crap situation to bring any child into and I don't get why they would do that other than they are selfish mares.

Still, he is her problem now and hell mend her, she can keep him!

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Tinkerbel6 · 26/02/2008 18:09

Is that what men are telling their ex's when they get their new girlfriend's pregnant ? some men must think their ex's are gullible, if men didnt want a baby they would put a johnie on it no matter what a woman told them, TIBS I hope that you can move forward and put your ex behind you

skyatnight · 26/02/2008 20:05

So it is the men who are lying, Tinkerbel?
(God, I really am gullible. No wonder I fell for my exp's rubbish.)

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