Another child…yes or no!

[AlwaysLate13]

Hi all, I’m 37 in August and I have been in a long distance relationship for 2.5 years (he lives 3 hours away). He has kids with his ex and is a very involved father so wouldn’t move that far away from them. My kids are in school here and their dad lives here (even though he hasn’t seen them for over a year) and my parents aren’t in the best of health and they need me here too, so neither of us could relocate. I would like to try for another child. I brought up my first 2 with very VERY minimal help from my then husband, and I have no doubt that I could do it again (even though I know how hard it would be). I don’t want a sperm donor as I wouldn’t be comfortable not knowing who the father is. My partner is on board with the idea, but obviously we know he wouldn’t see this child more than one weekend a month-6 weeks (I guess that’s what military wives do 🤷🏻‍♀️) and I’m not expecting anything from him really, financially or otherwise. Although would be happy for his involvement if he wanted to. I wouldn’t want a child past 38 so im fully aware I’m running out of time, just wondered what everyone else’s opinion is on this? My other kids are 13 and 8 (boys) and my eldest has autism (but is high functioning) and I own my own house outright….