Hi everyone, please no judgement. I’m at the lowest point of my life , finically & mentally, abusive ex partner took me to court and got a court order to see my children , my solictor is being of no help, I suffer from ptsd and depression as the abuse has always continued in some form or way (mental, emotional, finical) I have been begging him to help me for months now to help with clothes ect for our children as he’s got such a high income, to which I keep hearing the excuse “I’m on benefits” , “you get matience” .. it’s 13.45 a fortnight for two children, I had to buy them new clothes once again for his contact as he has a event , not once has he bought them clothes which left me short for food and electric, gas this weeks.. I’m in a pit of depression , I don’t know where to go what to do, I don’t want to wake up I feel like no matter what he will always get off with every form of abusive behaviour towards me and il continue to suffer, has a now newly turned fiancé enabling his behaviour which she’s happy he supports her and her kids (only been together a year) .. does anyone know any instant loan companies for bad credit? Iv tried foodbank iv had no reply and not answering phones, universal credit im maxed out with loans , I need a easy loan company that will help me please and thank you. I just feel like I have and will always continue to fail my children, he wasn’t around for the best part of 6 years now he’s Walked in and turned my life upside down again, can someone please advice me on what I can do also with him having the means to support my children but saying no he won’t?
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Natali365 · 17/05/2023 13:14
Hi , he’s on pips and working cash in hand , I have already tried to report a few times but without evidence their is nothing I can do , he’s always had the upper hand and getting away with everything , hence why I’m sitting the way I am now, he’s highly respected in the community now because he’s “changed his life around” .. yet still continues to emotionally and mentally abuse me , saying he will help me then telling me to sort it out myself and that money is my god , trying to gaslight the situation to Make it look like I always get it from him. Iv had a breakdown this morning over it all, last option now is a loan company
CadburyDream · 17/05/2023 12:27
If he is on a high income why do you get £13.45 a fortnight? Sorry if I misunderstood that? Why have you not contacted cms?
CadburyDream · 17/05/2023 13:42
He’s not got a high income if he is on benefits then? My ex is on benefits but doesn’t have to pay any maintenance as he has debts so I just don’t rely on it. I’ve got an over draft with my bank now I know some will disagree with it but it’s helped massively can you get an overdraft? I don’t have good credit either but was accepted.
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