Single parent issues

[K88]

Hi everyone

I was just wondering if there are any single parents out there who have had to give up everything because you became a single parent?

Everything I was working towards was to give my children a better life. Now it has all gone.

My ex partners son showed abusive sexual behaviour towards my children so I separated from him. It was nothing physical. My children are getting the help they need.

I know that it won't always be like this but I just feel like I have completely lost my identity and purpose. I know that I made the right decision as my children will always come first. my children's lives have been damaged and changed forever and I feel terrible and guilty about everything. I feel like me and my children have lost everything including our future. At this moment I really don't know what to do

[Namechange5544]

What you've lost is the future you imagined. It's a big loss and I really recommend counselling and/or anything else you need to grieve this.

BUT (big but) your new future awaits...! You don't know what it holds yet as you hadn't imagined this one, but it's there for you, as yet unwritten. It holds things your previous life could never have delivered.

[K88]

Thank you very much for your encouraging words.

I was half way through uni to become a physics teacher, I was doing my driving lessons. All this was to give my children a better life and to be a good role model and set a good example for them. My youngest child is 7 months and I can't afford childcare, and nobody around me can help as they all have busy lives. So I have had to quit it all. I just don't know how to make things better right now.

[rockingbird]

Aww bless you my lovely that's awful. You've had to take a backwards step for now, yes it's tough and totally not what you'd expected but things will slowly get better. Also you've saved yourself and your beautiful children from a very nasty situation so be proud of that!

[Ilikepinacoladass]

@K88

Thank you very much for your encouraging words.

I was half way through uni to become a physics teacher, I was doing my driving lessons. All this was to give my children a better life and to be a good role model and set a good example for them. My youngest child is 7 months and I can't afford childcare, and nobody around me can help as they all have busy lives. So I have had to quit it all. I just don't know how to make things better right now.

Have you looked into UC it should help with childcare?