How to stop comparing myself to married couples...

[TwoManyKids]

It's so hard and I do it constantly. My default setting seems to be this currently. Particularly hard in the holidays when everyone else seems to be jetting off or on family days out.
We are at my sister's tomorrow and she will have lovely hampers for my two but she's posting her decked up house and the kids mountains of pressies in the family chat. She is so generous to us and and her and husband work hard. I don't begrudge her having all they have at all but how do I change my mindset?

I have a partner now. But was a single parent for 7 years. I remember how unhappy I was my previous relationship and how much freedom I felt as a single parent.

Before I got divorced my friend split up with her partner and I felt jealous! I know you might not feel the same about your relationship but remembering that helped me

I am sure you are a lovely parent and your kids love you. It doesn't matter what photos show they are just a snap shot in a day.

You're sister sounds lovely but I'm sure she'd say her life wasn't perfect.

Hi Op. I hope you have had a great day with your sister. she sounds lovely. I'm wondering how long you've been making this comparison and is it couples in general?

Are you jealous because they are married or because they have more money to spend? Because there's no reason you can't as a single parent put decorations up / go on days out / go on holiday?

Thanks everyone for you kind replies. We had a lovely day at my sisters.
I think it would just not to be on high alert all the time. My job is decent but I'm terrified of some sort of bill coming up knocking us for six. This week I got an unexpected bill for £500 will wipe my savings.

@FridayKnight I've always felt less then when I look at the childhood my DNs have compared to what I can provide but I've noticed a real spike this year.
Not just with my sister but with friends as well. Might be my kids getting older and noticing more...or as DHs progress in careers we just seem further and further behind.

I'm assuming everything else in your life is OK. Is there anything else you would change if you could? I've felt a bit like you in the past, sometimes still do but I remind myself of some positive things and this has definitely helped me.