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Ex's mum

9 replies

Flowerpower97 · 22/03/2023 09:21

Ex's mum never bothers. Only Christmas Easter or a birthday. She insists coming and sitting in my house. I just feel so uncomfortable. We have no contact with ex. His choice. So much abuse from him though and having to have his mum over just opens up all this anxiety. I hear from someone mutual all her judge comments like how I've decorated and just little things about me. She's the type to smile at your face then bitch about everything. Children are 10 upwards to 17. Two have autism and my eldest doesn't want her here at all. There is no consistency. Not even notice just telling me what weekend she'll be over. How can I move on with this hold on me. I know I need go just suck it up and go through with it. But I just feel so uncomfortable having her at my home. She won't take the girls as especially the younget two with autism aren't the easiest. I'm worried telling her no then she'll put a court application in or make her son do it

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Bunnyhascovidnoteggs · 22/03/2023 09:22

Can't you just meet her in a cafe?

SophiaSW1 · 22/03/2023 09:30

Don't let her visit if you don't want to. Grandparents have no rights to access. Let her waste her money on court proceedings if she wants to. She won't get anywhere.

Fluffodils · 22/03/2023 09:32

Stop letting her visit. She can visit on dad's contact time (never)

Helpmethanks · 22/03/2023 09:33

Agree, just tell her no
how would it feel to do that

Flowerpower97 · 22/03/2023 10:45

I offered to meet in Park or out but she says its easier to come to mine as she can't talk out tidy. But the thing is if the bond was good then fair enough . She went 2 years once without seeing them. But other grandchildren she takes to theatre and does stuff. My eldest especially sees that on Facebook so she don't want to have her coming back and forth. Just really makes me feel uncomfortable. Knowing information will be going back to him about everything. I regularly do send photos and important information but I just want to move on. If the girls choose to have her involved getting older then that is their choice. I've so far ignored the WhatsApp message🙈

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RandomMess · 22/03/2023 14:03

Just be factual

X doesn't want to see you as she's hurt that you take A&B out to theatre etc and don't offer similar to her

Y & Z aren't bothered either.

Feel free to invite them out for lunch somewhere and I'll drop them off for you.

Flowerpower97 · 23/03/2023 09:35

Thank you just needed to know if being unreasonable really too
. I've avoided answering her so far

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Sausagis · 23/03/2023 10:08

Hell no. Draw a line under that!

Flowerpower97 · 23/03/2023 10:46

Thank you . Just worried the consequences 🙈

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