Mothers day.

[memesndmoreme]

Anyone else not got a thing for mother's day?

Me, but I have got the gift of DC with me to try and see the positive. I know lots of people say it shouldn't matter, it's just a day etc. However when day in, day out you're doing every ounce of decision making, parenting, comprise etc for others and there's nobody to acknowledge you're doing an ok job It still hurts. I always ensure my DC have gifts for their Dad if they ask to do it for every occasion and putting it politely, he's shit.

How old is your child/children? It does get easier as they get older. X

Do you have a friend who could help? My kids are small but they made cards on their own, and a friend took them out yesterday to go shopping. She does this for my birthday and Christmas, too. Obviously I pay for it! But it's lovely for them to choose gifts, they just need an adult to help. They would be sad if they couldn't do it because there's so much chat about Mother's Day at school.

Happy Mother's Day to you ladies. To all the lone parents, I see you and you're doing the best you can. Chin up- you're amazing. xx

4 kids. Nothing.

I'm so grateful to have them and that's a gift in itself. Just seeing everyone getting stuff and taken out you can't help feel a bit down.

They are 7 and 12. The 12 year old could have gotten at least a card, but I feel like I'd be asking them to do it and it wouldn't feel the same. I would have been over the moon with a card.

Me not even a happy Mother's Day. Feeling very sorry for myself x

Nothing for me
And I'm up set .
Two teenage son's and a husband.
Was a supposed to tell them !!? Organise it myself ?
What do other mum's do?

Nothing OP. Two kids, 12 and 15. The 12 year old improvised a home card just because my husband told him to. It didn't even say I love you. I think next year I will book to be away for the weekend, alone ir with friends. Disappointing and hurtful.

@memesndmoreme my daughter is 18 now and it’s only the last few years she has really realised and appreciated all the work. Can they make you lunch or a cup of tea just something small and actually there is nothing wrong with you pointing it out to them in a matter of fact rathe than emotional way, they are at an age when some empathy can be understood.

The married posters on the line parent support thread I know you mean well however it’s completely different being line and unsupported and being the only 24 hr parent, decision maker and provider and days like this are much harder than having a useless husband.

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It gets better OP. I've had some miserable ones over the years, when the contrast between parenting with another adult (however useless) and on your own has been stark. Add to that a load of guilt that you are feeling resentful towards the children... the result is not pleasant.
But this year I got a present and call from one DC and breakfast served happily and with love from DD (13).
Don't despair, they will get there too. And in the meantime, much love, I hear you!

Seconding that it gets better,

I have had some shit ones through the years. But this year, DD - now 17 - produced a card and gift. DS - 15, often sullen and grumpy - produced a bunch of flowers he had walked to the Coop to buy himself.

thr graft you are putting in now will bear fruit later, when they start to see how much you do, and (in my case) how shit their other parent is. So hang in there, keep thr faith and it will all come good.

Posting this comment on a thread in the lone parents topic is bad taste, to put it politely. Hardly "poor me" when the people posting here are doing the work of two parents on their own.

So why don't you flounce off and insult some people who aren't already being superhumans and are allowed to feel a bit neglected for the thankless task it is not just from children - who can be forgiven for this because they are young and don't yet have the understanding of the work and sacrifice involved - but also from ignorant adult like you who should know better if they have an ounce of intelligence or any respect for people doing twice what everyone else does.

So flounce of somewhere else please. 💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻

I'm sorry OP, my dd is a lone parent so I buy a card and gift from dgs. Do the dc have grandparents who would take on buying cards and gifts for mother's day, your birthday and Christmas?

Thanks ladies. In a way I'm glad I'm not the only one, but it's a horrible feeling.

Happy mothers day to you all ❤️🎊

I think next year I will give money and get a friend to take them out, that's a great idea.

Hope you all have a nice rest of the day x

There's always one. I purposely posted on the lone parents board to avoid these comments.

For christmas, birthdays and mothers days I always buy my favourite foods, a nice box of chocolates and a new book and settle down in the afternoon for some time to read and tuck into the chocolates. If DDs dad doesn't get me anything than I still get a nice day.

That's a lovely idea. I'm going to have a nice bath after dinner and relax with a good book

Happy Mothers day!

Try not to let it get you down.

No idea how old you're children are but it was the same when mine were younger.

So I started to 'help' them along with Mothers day/birthdays by giving them a budget, taking them shopping, giving them the money to buy what they wanted to and then they would present it to me on the day!

I'm actually not bothered about the day itself at all but they were especially when they chat about it with their friends so I helped them with it.

Now they are a bit older they get on with it themselves. If they've run out of pocket money then they'l still acknowledge the days by making a cup of tea, cake or a simple sandwhich or meal. It doesnt have to be extravagant or expensive.

If yours are young maybe you could help them with it too.

At that age I'd give them some money in a supermarket and tell them to buy me some chocolates.
At Christmas I would let them loose in a department store or shopping mall. One year I got a build a bear dressed in camouflage greens and military cap, which at least have me a laugh.
Now they're in their 20s they're in the habit of getting me thoughtful gifts (with their own money)

I've been on my own nearly six years now. My children were 5/10 when ex left. I have always taken them to somewhere like home bargains gave them money and let them loose in the shop with me following from a distance. I do this for my birthday and Christmas also. They love to get me things and I hope understand the importance of gift giving as a sign of appreciation. Hope next year is better for you

I didn't expect anything from my ex, as it took a prompt even when we were together.

I still make an effort for father's Day and his birthday for my son. So he knows what it is to be thoughtful, and not gonna lie...over the years he'll know what it is to be gracious, and it also allows him to enjoy gifting to his dad.

Of his own accord he slipped a card in my shopping basket and I pretended not to see. Actually, I said out loud "I'll have to get grandma a card for mother's Day" and he was delighted as I didn't see him sneak it in.

I had a lovely day with a friend and wishes all my single mama friends a happy mother's day, and I felt all the better for it.

I was secretly hoping(not expecting) my partner might do something, but it's not his job to make up for my ex partner's shortfalls and my son had it covered anyway.