Hard

[purpleme12]

I didn't want to get up this morning. It's just not much fun anymore.
My child gets angry over nothing. And can't calm herself down, looks to me to calm herself down.
Recently the anger comes out more as attitude. But it's really often in the day every day .
And it wears me down.
But in her head she's angry, she needs my help to stop feeling angry so I sound come and cuddle her when she shown a bit of attitude cos that's what works.
But this isn't how it should be is it.
I shouldn't go to cuddle her when she's been rude to me.
I've tried to give her things she can use to calm herself down it's never really worked.
I don't know how to fix this and I'm just so tired of it now. It's not enjoyable anymore.

She's 9

I'm so tired of carrying on with it all

Sorry you’ve had no responses, I don’t really have any advice but just wanted to say you are not alone it’s awful,
and so hard being the only one to do everything. Hope you are feeling a bit better today.

This sounds difficult for you! Have you both tried to sit down and discuss what's making her so angry? Writing in a journal and working towards a plan of how to combat these feelings might help. We used to have a thinking chair system, the boys would take some time out to think about their actions / we'd then discuss when they were calmer how the situation made them feel and how it could have been avoided. It's worked well for us! We have an amazing dialogue now and can air our views openly which is half the battle. Parenting can be bloody tough, cut yourself some slack and pick your battles. Sending love and strength your way.

Thank you @SpinningFloppa yes I find it overwhelming sometimes
Thank you @rockingbird thing is it's more often than not little things that make her angry.
It can be anything from just asking her to do something like and normal for example. If you ask her why she's angry it won't be big issues.
So there's no one thing I can work on if you see what I'm saying.
She has problems regulating her emotions.
Then I've got everything else to deal with on top and it's so hard

I don't think I can do it anymore.
Any of it.
I get treated with such disrespect.
I can't carry on
I just can't deal with it anymore

Sometimes it can all feel too much, can't it? You are posting in the right place, parenting alone day in day out, dealing with every demand and mood and keeping everything running can feel relentless some days. There will be good days too, days when you realise you're doing a brilliant job raising a human completely single handedly. It's hard to remember that when in the midst of exhaustion and your child kicks off, calms down, kicks off again.
No words of advice really, I just came on to say I get it, and you are not alone. Hang on in there, the overwhelm will pass.

I hope you have had a better day @purpleme12