Relentless

[mackerelsandwich]

Anyone just feel like it's just a constant relentless stream of demands and I just don't know how much I've left..lone parenting, being the one to do everything, the constant demands and expectations, nothing left for me, nothing feeling good enough. I'm sure there's more I should say, but I've no space left in my brain to think

I suspect we all feel like that.

I can deal with the practical, physical demands ok. I can get up every day, I can deal with the sickness, the upsets, ferrying kids to school and hobbies. I can spend all my money on the kids.

But the mental side is hard. Having no time to switch off and know someone else can be responsible for them, even for a night. Knowing that if you forget something, from non-uniform days to school parties, then it won't happen and the kids will miss out. Worrying that if you lost your job, then no one else can step in. Being so scared that you are not enough, made even worse by young children not understanding why they are the only ones without a dad and crying to. Having to be so careful of what you say to them, as they are too young to know the full truth, which is so awful that most people couldn't begin to fathom how to deal with it.

I have no advice - just know that others feel the same. And we are stronger than we know, because we have to be.

Thank you. You've summed it up. I really appreciate your reply. It's hard for others to truly understand it. Its the pressure. I do it all, meet their every need, but like you say it's the mental load of it. Thank you

I'm overwhelmed.
My child is 9 but wants constant playing with/attention (not looking for suggestions or opinions on that).
I need to play with her. But then house is a mess.
The house is the first to go really.
Other stuff in my head that I know I need to do.
I'm so stressed and I didn't used to be overwhelmed

@purpleme12 I know you didn’t ask, but I play Cinderella with my two and I’m the evil step mother getting them to clean up. Sometimes helps a bit with the house - it keeps them quiet while I clean.

Oh aye! Solo parent here who is feeling it too. Spend most days trying not to cry but finally reached out to the HV for help/maybe one for the GP as I have no energy for the fight. And boy oh boy is it a fight.

A fight against the cost of living crisis, an ex who might as well be listed as dead for the amount of support given since I broke up with him (was pretty useful before then too), trying to find work that pays, and make time for me while juggling childcare, keeping the house running, and the crippling weight of double standards and sexist expectations that us mothers to just get on with it - and the saddest bit is we do just have to get on with it, what other choice do we have.

Wah!!!!! 😫😫😫😫😫