after 2.5 years on my own all of a sudden i seem to be getting loads of contact from men>???

[chocolatespiders]

i am not sure why have been on dating site for 6 months with not a glimer of intrest excpet from men i wouldnt consider (sorry if thats harsh) now i have been messages from guys who seem genuine and are just my type>> not after a looker.. but i have to fancy them.. and i do....

I am more confident in myself as i have lost a little weight etc but they dont know that as i havent changed my photo...

and it feels so nice after, ex left me and 2 girls has recentlty got married and i felt so stuck... but now i think i may possibly love again one day.....

Yay good for you I guess men are like buses and they come in 3's right

Excellent! Hope you find someone nice.

I've recently found a lovely guy after 2 years on my own... did the dating site thing too... but found my man through friends.

there is hope out there chocolate spiders... and hope you have a lovely time meeting these interested guys. Just enjoy the attention - good luck

aww thats great.

hopefully your good luck will rub off on me...i need some lol

thanks all

It does feel nice..

I am happy on my own with the girls so i am not desperate to meet anyone which is a good thing, but i have got to the stage where i am over my ex (it has taken a while!!) and i am glad i took that time as i needed it, but i also know i am getting older as are my girls... and i also need to think of myself a little bit aswell as i have needs as well.....

wabbit >how long has it been .... does it feel strage after so long... or is it like riding a bike... or has it not been long enough yet for that to have happned for you? dont answer if you dont want...

i read part of you thread mamazon> have you decided what you will do?

Good for you!:-),it feels really good to get attention again doesn't it?
To echo what mamazon said,hope your luck will rub off on me too!:-)

well i figured i would wait and see what happened and how i reacted at the tme...he hasn't bothered contacting me again so i guess he has decided im not fit for teh job lol

no way he realised you were to good for him...blokes like that are not worth shaving your legs for

Chocolatespiders... Since my ex and I split up? pretty much 2 years exactly, I met my lovely new man last Sept, took 'til new years for anything 'interesting' to happen!!! (It's like riding a bike!!!)

the thing that I wasn't expecting was how seamlessly he fits into the family, extended family too.

I think in the past I've found it really difficult to share my world with a guy, but this time all my control freaky habits just seem to have disolved

You sound like you're in a very similar place to me, happy to be on your own, but would like someone to share your world with

oh wabbit that is such a lovely inspiring post.. thanks for taking the time to post it...

so glad you have found happiness.....i hope you have a long and happy future together....

my one stumbling block in all of this is actually having the courage to go on a date.. but i am working on my confidence!!!

Good Luck Chocolatespiders
dating is a bit scarey but remember, trust your instincts (they're rarely wrong... and you'll know in the first few seconds of meeting someone whether they're a Yes! or a No!!)
And above all, let your nearest and dearest know exactly what you're up to, in my experience my sister and friends were a huge support and source of great hilarity when recounting truely dismal dates!!!

thanks for the advice....

i am going to set myself a goal of going on a date soon, it is just so scary.... but the longer i leave it the worse it feels