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Briscombe123 · 28/02/2023 00:13

My son is 12 years,old and he says he wants to go and live with his dad me and my ex have a very volatile relationship we don't really speek and my son don't get on with my partner thanks to his dad but no matter what I say lately it don't help I work and have just had to up my hours which means,less time with my kids and because his dad hasn't worked for 13 years he has the time to spend more time with him I just don't think its a good idea as my partner and be quite malipative really don't know what to do

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PeekAtYou · 28/02/2023 00:16

If you took this to court, a judge would say that it was up to your son. How many days does your ex currently do? Does he live locally?

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Briscombe123 · 28/02/2023 00:19

He lives an hour away and my ex don't work not for 13 years

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WentForAWalk · 28/02/2023 00:21

I'm sorry, the wording of your thread made this hard to follow.

What does your son want to do, and how old is he?

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Briscombe123 · 28/02/2023 00:22

Sorry I meant to say my ex can be malipative

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Briscombe123 · 28/02/2023 00:23

My son is 12 and he wants to go and live with is dad

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KnickerlessParsons · 28/02/2023 01:11

Is there a reason you wouldn't want him to live with his dad? Other then wanting him to live with you, and missing him w etc.
Do you think the father wouldn't be able to cope?

Spongeboob · 28/02/2023 01:19

You mean manipulative? How so? It's a difficult age and if he's not happy at home then he'll jump to that alternative. He's likely to have family court take his opinions into account at that age. It's shit but is your ex likely to completely fuck up if your son decided to live with him? Is there nothing you can do to boost the relationship between your son and your partner?

SpinningFloppa · 28/02/2023 10:31

At this age he can choose, my nephew went to live with his dad at a similar age

Crunchingleaf · 28/02/2023 15:01

If this was to go to court it would lead to your son living with his father.

Are you sure the reason your son doesn’t like your ex is because of your ex manipulating him. I think I would do everything in my power to work on relationship with my child and myself if I was in your position especially if you have concerns about your child living with the ex. Make sure your child knows you hear them and you love them unconditionally. Make sure they know they are welcome back for visits and to live if needed. He might discover that the gras isn’t greener.

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Briscombe123 · 28/02/2023 17:11

My son doent like my current boyfriend but he does love his dad but his dad is really good at brain washing his kids to highway of thinking that includes making him believe that he would be better off living with him as I do work alot and he doent I hate this so much just wished that everyone got on and my current boyfriend can ast really childish sometimes about certain situations which really don't help I feel in the middle all the time and just feel like getting away from it all and leaving them to it .

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Starlightstarbright1 · 28/02/2023 19:50

Does do live with you ? Did your Ds ever get on with dp ? What is his complaints about him

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