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I'm so upset

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Solobear · 10/02/2023 20:00

Please someone tell me I'm being so stupid 😔
I'm a single parent to 2 girls.
Thier father is a waste of space complete Facebook dad. It's been 2 weeks since he has bothered with his children until tonight when he's called to say he will have our eldest tomorrow night. Eldest is over the moon 🌙and is looking forward to it. So why does it break my heart??? I know I'm being completely unreasonable but it makes me feel awful. i look after them and love them with everything i have 24/7 He picks and chooses when it suits him to play daddy! Eldest has always been a daddy's girl. Youngest doesn't ever go with dad. I don't even know how to explain what I mean but I'm just sad 😞 it's hard being a single parent and he just shows up when he likes and is amazing fun dad!

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Redhothoochycoocher · 10/02/2023 20:09

That is so crap. Your DDs will realise as they get older and his relationship with them will be very shallow if he carries on like that.

MissMaple82 · 10/02/2023 20:22

Yes as poster above has said, they eventually grow to learn who their loyalties lie with. I've been through this. My now 18 year old doesn't bother in the slightest with his dad

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Solobear · 10/02/2023 20:38

Ty for your replys x I've been told that before but I have this horrid feeling I can see what's going to happen! When she reaches teenages years mum can't afford everything she wants mum makes her go to school and come in at certain times... in comes amazing dad to the rescue lets her do what she wants and buys her what she wants..he told me he asked dd if she wants to live with him when she's older she said yes! Why would he even ask that to a kid! its my biggest fear 😭

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PeaceLilyCactus · 10/02/2023 20:42

My asshole ex favours our eldest but I refuse to let him see one without the other on the rare occasions he spends time with them. I don’t think my kids have picked up on the favouritism yet as it’s subtle and they’re very young, but it makes me mad. Youngest has autism so is ‘too much work’ for him.

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Solobear · 10/02/2023 21:00

Some men are just awful!
My ex defo favours eldest youngest never wants to go with him so he doesn't bother with her (if that dosent tell u what kinda man this is i dont know). I don't wanna force her to go has she gets so upset, were has eldest is upset if she can't go. I don't know what he brings to the table he doesn't bother with them and when he does its all over fb with how amazing his girls are but brings them home after 3 hours 😔it's just got 2 me tonight I should be used to it by now but he will always be thier to come and swoop in and be amazing dad.....

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Oddbobbyboo · 19/03/2023 16:39

Solobear · 10/02/2023 20:38

Ty for your replys x I've been told that before but I have this horrid feeling I can see what's going to happen! When she reaches teenages years mum can't afford everything she wants mum makes her go to school and come in at certain times... in comes amazing dad to the rescue lets her do what she wants and buys her what she wants..he told me he asked dd if she wants to live with him when she's older she said yes! Why would he even ask that to a kid! its my biggest fear 😭

This is my ex husband to a T... my children are now 24, 20, 15 and 12.

The older 3, despite always being brought expensive lavish gifts, have told him to get fugged....

Trust me, the time will come x I'm so surprised how respectful and loving my children have been xx

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