Ex, kids, advice

[Rollerbird]

Hi
My dd doesn't use mn and I said I would get some advice from you guys for her.
Split with partner approx 2 years ago.
2 children age 6 and 3
He left and lives with someone who has 1 child approx 10?
Kids see him regularly. Once a week for dinner and Friday night (he collects from school /nursery) to Saturday around 3pm.
He won't tell her where he lives (she knows the town-approx 20 mins away) and she knows the name only of the partner.
How can she broach wanting to know where the kids will be when with him (not planning to go round or anything). Also kids told her the partner baths, dresses them and little one sleeps in their bed sometimes. (as she would with mum), but mum never met other woman and knows nothing about her.
My own dd would like a civil arrangement where kids know the adults are fine with each other and actually talk etc and has no intention of kicking off. Dad grew up with a situation where everything between his own separated parents was a big secret.
Any idea of how she could address a step forward towards a better relationship?

Plenty of niggles about various things dad does or doesn't for an easy life when they are with him that make things harder when they are at home with her, but that isn't the issue here.

Hope I'm giving enough information and would love some advice?

We're just moving this over to lone parents for the OP.

Silly question but has she asked him where he lives? She has a right to know where her children are staying. Also Incase of an emergency.

She actually doesn't have a right to know where he lives, bitter as that is to swallow.

If she has grave safety concerns for her dc she should report them. Otherwise it's just a difference in parenting styles.

Can 2022

I'm sure my solicitor said I had the right to know where my children were when my ex wouldn't tell me where he lived.

Nope.

Of course he's being a prick by not telling you and I'd be stalking his town to track his car down but no, unless there are legitimate concerns about his parenting, what he does, and where he does it with the kids is nobody else's business. Even their other parent.

He won't tell her. She doesn't have grave concerns about their welfare.
On the way to the town the kids will say 'this is the way to daddy's house' she has said to them ' I don't know where daddy lives'. I suppose eventually they might tell her!