Ex demanding a meet

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My ex husband (of 9 years) is demanding I meet him.
He wants to discuss me forcing our boys to see him. The boys are nearly 13 and 16.5. They told him to his face, and have been for the last 2 years that they don't want anything to do with him.
Their dad is now demanding I meet him, on my own to discuss this.

How do I deal with his? My life literally feels like it's not my own. When my partner isn't home, I feel like I'm on lock down. Doors are locked, my location is shared with family. I had to ask him to leave 12.5 years ago, and it still feels like he's trying to control me and what I do.
I've spoken to a counsellor who has told me to block him. My anxiety and ticks are through the roof, I just need a break now, after all these years

Block him. Ignore him. Do not meet him.

Ignore him. And block him.

You don't have to meet him. You don't have to engage with him at all.

Tell him he must stop contacting you, to continue will be harnessment. Then block him.

Start a diary of when he ignores this. Then contact the police for a restraining order.

If you feel threatened at any point contact the police.

Ignore him
Block him
You don't have to meet your ex or convince your sons to see him.

Echoing what had been said. You do not have to meet your ex. I would definitely block him on every medium. You do deserve a break, having dealt with an emotionally abusive, controlling ex for 5 years now (unfortunately we have younger kids that need managing) I feel your pain.
I've found breathing techniques and mindfulness helped me massively to regain some level of sanity while dealing with him. Breathing to consciously control stress is the most beneficial thing I've ever learned. Happy to share if you'd like. I hope you find some peace 🙏

Block him and report any further contact as harassment. I've been where you are though and it is so scary. But you're stronger then you think and he can't control you anymore. Take back the control, once you've done it, you will feel so much better.

You and your DCs all agree you don’t want to see him? Well it’s time to start your new life without him!

Laugh to yourselves at his cheek, block him. He’s nothing to your family now. Learn how to Grey Rock, teach your DCs too. It’s a powerful life skill.

Do you have any reason to believe that if you do not respond he may try and make contact with you by other means?

trouble with blocking is it can make matters worse as it can make people escalate their contact ie turning up etc.

I would suggest telling him no you will not meet him and telling him not to
contact you any further and do not reply. If he then continues you could make a report to the police and have the evidence of contact. If you block
you have no evidence and will potentially be worried about what he might do next.

@Creative567 why have you resurrected this thread? It's almost a year old, and I'm sure the OP has made her decision!

Did you not see the warning that this thread hasn't been posted on for a while?

No I did not see the notice regarding the thread. I wouldn't have posted if I had, either way its been posted now so no need to use exclamation marks. Any one reading in a similar situation may find my input useful so no harm done is there.