Is this even fair? Custody he makes the rules

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My ex has my two year old two nights a week and the routine all revolves around his work schedule I have her majority of the time but he’s made it where it is “fair” (in his eyes) because we have her the same amount of time looking at the month as a whole but like he has two nights a week and i have her four it’s always around his work Schedule I have uni and he’s also booked another lads holiday without asking me so I’m missing uni classes for a whole week he’s so selfish. I wish he wasn’t even in our life tbh he lives with his parents and has our daughter sleeping in a travel cot when she sleeps in a bed at home

Ask him how he is going to care for his daughter whilst away on a stag do? What has he put in place?

can You suggest mediation going forward?

he doesn’t appear to be prior using his D.C. and her care first

thank goodness your no longer with him

How is it the same time over a month if he does two nights, and you do four (what about the seventh night a week?). Do you have any relationship with his parents so they could look after her while you go to uni. His time, he needs to cover.

How are you missing a whole week when he only ever has her 2 days? Are his parents prepared to provide any sort of cover in these situations? While a routine is best for everyone, work can of course make it difficult. Is his rota on a schedule? Mediation to set up some sort of plan going forward might be useful.

Hi parents used to cover for him when he was at work during the start of the breakup but now they don’t he said he feels guilty that they would watch her when I can watch her. And by a week I meant I’m in on a Monday Tuesday and Friday at uni so I’m missing the Monday and Tuesday within that week when he’s away if that makes sense

His work schedule is awful he does night shifts and starts at awkward mornings like 3am until 2:30pm that sort of shift

Plus when he has her she’s off to nursery for five hours :( so she’s not getting any real bond with him

Sounds like his parents are the best bet. She seems to spend most time there anyway. But he should arrange it.