What to expect from baby dad

[Babygirlmum]

Any single mums who can share there co parenting routines please as I just don't know if what my baby dad does is enough, he came into our daughters life at 5 months and he's seen her all of 5 or 6 times let me add it is long distance and he does live 1 hour and 45 minutes away witch makes it that bit more harder, I'm going through a tough time at the minute with family health and some days I struggle my daughter is 9 months old and is in the teething stage, what should he be doing he doesn't do anything he just about sees her he does work 6 days a week and then 3 days off, he says as soon as hes off he wants to see her but he comes down for a few hours doesn't spend actual quality time and then goes home and that's actually when he comes sometimes he can go weeks without seeing her it's not good or stable I don't think. Any experiences? recommendations?

I'm not sure I'm going to be overly helpful but didnt want to leave you hanging.

My dc's dad lives in another country, although not that far. I think it helps that we didnt have deep feelings or an upsetting breakup to contend with so we've always managed to be civil (although there are still moments!) He comes for a weekend every 3 months. We still get along OK as friends so when she was younger it used to be he would spend time in my house and I would go out somewhere for short periods, building time gradually, we could all go to the zoo, swimming, have dinner together. As she got older he took her out for a few hours and now he takes her out for the day and im not so involved. It's a slow process, covid didn't help, but it just builds both their confidence. He video calls a couple of times a week, so she can speak to him.

Basically though I've always accepted its all on me, he is not going to be able to cover sick days or nursery pick ups, he's not an involved parent. It can be frustrating and you can feel resentful. All perfectly normal, especially when your baby is so small...but it gets easier. Hopefully you have help and support in other places and I have just started expanding my "circle over trust" to accept more help.