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[SpinningFloppa]

Be friends with your ex? I don’t mind being civil but draw the line and being friends, is being civil enough or should you try to be friends for your kids sake? My ex has done too many awful things and I just don’t think he is a nice person.

Hell no. The twat is not welcome in any part of my life. I think it's great that some people can but men like my ex make that impossible. You do what's right for you, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

I'm in the No camp. Had to many lies and broken promises. I'm owed over £20k In Child support and I feel that is just plan neglectful that he refuses to provide even the minimum expected. I wish him. His new gf and babies the best of luck. I count my blessing everyday. But want nothing more than a civil relationship

Civil yes, friends - hell no!

Civil is fine. Some people don't even try this so your already doing a fab job

Civil is all I could ever do and even then he tries my patience.
Years of emotional and financial abuse and he still turns nasty if he doesn’t get his way. How could you be friends with someone who can turn on you whenever they feel like it. He is also a poor father who struggles to do the basics and so I have zero respect for that, but I grit my teeth and say nothing for sake of peace.

Thanks all, my ex bought me a book for Xmas and asked to spend new years together I was told that maybe he was just trying to be friends and I’m being unfair by not wanting to be but he’s done too much to me in the past for their to be any friendship and the way he has treated our children I could never be friends with him, glad to know it’s not unreasonable!