5 month old baby access -advice please

[Georgia369]

Hi,

Im a single mum to a lovely young boy (5 months). I ended it with his father not long after the birth because his lack of support was highlighted throughout pregnancy and postpartum.

I feel much better without him even doing it all on my own and his input and interest in his son to date has been minimal to say the least.

We are currently living in the same house until the end of December as we are tied in to a lease together and at most he sees him an hour a week if that. The rest of the time he is out or in his room.

Previously, he said he would see his son more but only if he could see him for a day a week at his parents house which is a 2 hour drive away (this i imagine is so they can do the parenting on his behalf). At my sons age, I feel this is too far for him especially as he is also combination fed.

My ex is now, however saying at the end of this month he is going to move back in with his parents and this is the only place he can now see his son.

What are my options here? He barely sees him as it is and I feel extremely uncomfortable with him going for this distance and as he sees him so infrequently (until they build up more time together) I feel uncomfortable for him going away for this length of time.

any advice would be much appreciated xx

Is the split acrimonious and can you have this conversation with him?

Can you be close by in case baby needs you or needs feeding?

A positive co parenting relationship will need these conversations and both peoples agendas to be the child’s best interests.

Can you suggest that initially you may need to be close by in case baby needs you/needs feeding, and that as they get older this will decrease? Then you can be on hand if needed, and he can have a relationship with his child, and the outcome of this compromise will tell you all you need to know about his intentions as a co parent.

Any parent with any bit of sense would know that is too far for a young baby. If he was an anyway decent father he would be spending time with his son now while he has the chance and to make sure they develop a bond.
Who is he expecting to do the journey? How long are visits for? Is there no where he could of located so he could be close to his child?
Put your child first and say no to any unreasonable ideas from your Ex. The contact time can be built up as the child ages. Now little and often is more appropriate.